this is an odd question. I guess out of morbid curiosity.
If someone's wife used her husband's facebook account to write on a person's facebook wall - telling her "Apparently you have more nerve than brains. After what you did to me and Dawn at your wedding, trying to make sure we were seated as far away from you as possible, not to mention what you did to me in Germany, apparently convincing the wife of the CMS that you were George's girlfriend and that I had come to Germany on a pathetically fruitless effort to chase him, why on earth would we go out of our way to try to get together?"
I didn't respond because it wasn't my place. But I was at the wedding she is referring to. There was no assigned or reserved seating. it was a typical wedding - wedding party at the 'head table' and rest of the guests seated wherever.
The other person asked her not to air dirty laundry on her wall and left it at that. If you had been at the wedding and did not remember their being assigned seating - would you leave it alone?
The woman who wrote the comments is over 50...that's what has me.
I didn't respond. I was at the wedding - it was a small wedding and it was open seating. I wanted to come to her defense but felt like some posted - if I did - it would be giving the woman fuel to her fire.
I am out of Facebook, too many drama and tension, and sometimes I get tempted to vaguebook someone. I am also addicted to it, so I deactivated it until I can control myself betterr!!!
Kind of person you described is one of the reasons I said bye2. Facebook is good, but sometimes it is bad too :(((
Hi cheryl-
I would personally leave it alone...
BUT...after my WONDERFUL mother's day...I am up for some drama!! lol
Send me the 'who' and 'where'...and I will post something!!
LOL
THAT will keep her wondering!!!!
Best Luck!
michele/cat
whew...the seating thing could mean a couple things that come to mind:
1) thought they should be at a the 'family' table close to the head table
2) they may have been assigned (or suggested) a seat that others are unaware of.
Either way - I'd leave it alone. Let her and the bride duke it out - hopefully they will on FB so everyone can watch! :)
Not much. I have never understood why some folks feel the need to show how trashy they really are on Facebook. I would have unfriended her for sure....
You did the right thing by not responding. Some people just want drama in their lives, and this person that posted the comment, must have thought that they would be getting lots of support by saying what they said. And some people like to see how many comments or "likes" that they get, so that could also have been the motive. I think you look like the mature one for not responding at all.
FB drama.....BOOOO! If you're friends with the other chick or her husband, I'd encourage them to delete that post in a private message. If they are not your friends though, I'd stay out of it and let them do their own thing. The other chick at the wedding is an adult and can handle it herself. If it were my daughter, it'd be different.
For the record, we didn't do assigned seating for my little wedding. My bff had a bigger wedding, but no assigned seating at hers either.
I would ignore... friend... and probably block him and her If she has her own account. I get on fb to talk to my out of town family and friends and to chit chat some with people from work. Not to fight with people or air my dirty laundry.
Every wedding I've ever been to has assigned seating. I've never been to one where it was a seat yourself affair. I'm sure weddings are evolving to a more casual environment and seating yourself may be in vogue now :)
Either way I would NOT comment on it at all. The person the comment was directed too has already expressed her wish for dirty laundry not to be aired on her wall.
I understand you are wanting to defend your friend but any comments you would make would only fuel the fire and provoke the nasty poster into "defending" herself against you on your friends wall.
Just let it go and the drama queen will move on once she sees she can not force your friend to engage.
Peace and Blessings,
T. B
yes. leave it alone, or if you must, message her privately.
Well, really what would you add?
I think this falls into the "nunya" category.
Facebook drama sucks! And the crazy thing is, people who are otherwise normal mature adults who wouldn't say these things to a someone in person, on the phone, in a letter, or even an email will reduce themselves to the level of adolescent girls on facebook.
I would let it roll. But it sure does drive me crazy.
well, the other person has requested that the drama die down, so there's reason #693 to avoid stirring up teh FB dramaz.
i have to admit, it would be hard for me to let that pass. but it's clearly the right thing to do.
go ahead and post HERE what you'd LIKE to have said!
:) khairete
S.
It's drama - I don't do drama so I would leave it alone. It doesn't involve you - stay out of it. Nothing to be gained except unnecessary stress!
1. It doesn't concern you, so stay out of it.
2. Are you sure that you even know exactly what is going on? Have you been privy to all their interactions? Maybe the other W. has been nasty to her in a way that makes her look crazy if she complains; "Who me? What'd I do?"
3. I don't agree with dramatizing it for FB, but maybe something set her off right then. Maybe the W. sent a message to her husband (about "all" getting together), and this was her way of letting the W. know that she's on to her, using her husband's account to show that she has access to whatever this W. might be saying to her husband. Women can be monsters to each other, and it sounds like this one is just fed up.
I would not respond. But, I do wonder why hubby and this W. are friends. If there was somebody I detested, my husband would not friend them!
I wouldn't say anything, but I'd be thinking 'early senility'.
I am so confused. Who is this?
It amazes me how Facebook allows for utter insanity to reach into our lives on a daily basis. I mean, these conversations and opinions that otherwise normal-seeming friends have with each other, that we otherwise wouldn't be privy to - they have the power to drive us nuts, don't they? LOL
I'm of two minds about whether I would respond. On the one hand, I'm sure the bride would appreciate a "voice of reason" piping up and saying, "Huh. I was there and I thought it was a seat-yourself sort of dinner. I don't remember there being place cards?" But on the other hand, this might invite the obviously crazy FB-hijacking wife of your friend to turn her laser-like focus on YOU, which you probably don't want! :-/ Not sure I'd go near that conversation with a 10-foot pole, unless you're up for some high drama this evening! hee hee!
hmmm... if it was a mutual friend or something I would maybe say, "Interesting, I didn't even notice assigned seating."
However, you don't know if there was a backstory, perhaps she expected to be at a certain table or was asked to sit somewhere else. Either way, this person sounds toxic. Even if she is right... that is not the way to go about it. I wouldn't give her snarky post any sort of answer... b/c that is what she wants, attention. Really, stay out of the fb drama!
If she is under 21 (and she sounds like she is) maybe you could gently guide her ?
Way too catty for me. I would leave it alone and her too. Is she still in high school? Too childish to be bothered with if she wasn't posting on my wall. If she was posting on my wall I wouldn't say another word about it. There is no fire without fuel.
honey, its one of two things.. either the other W. is indeed the other W., and other people should stay out of it for fear of being caught in the crossfire or , one if not both of these women are jealous little nutjobs who doesnt want THAT W. sitting TOO close to THEIR man..either way, you dont want to be caught in the crossfire when, not if, the fur starts flying.the more people that these two can get to listen to them carry on about the other one, the longer they are going to hiss at each other from across the room.
K. h
Hi, Cheryl:
Why would you want to come to her defense..
She needed to be held accountable for writing on her
husband's account.
He has a right as everyone does to privacy.
She has a duty to be self-restrained. She did not exercise restraint.
She also has the duty to honorably perform contracts and covenants both
with God and man.
She has not performed her covenant with her husband.
She really needed someone to tell her that she violated her husband's privacy.
Good luck.
D.
