N.!!
My dear, although common sense has taken a backseat for a number of parents these days, I see NOTHING wrong with "reading up" on tips to help your children and parents be the best they can be. Would you take an exam without studying? Would you drive a car without being qualified? Any dog on the street can have a baby, but it takes a real woman to admit she doesnt know everything.
I am a firm believer in staying home with my child, and teaching him how to conduct himself, have respect for himself and others, and show him that I love him no matter what, but I am blessed enough to do that - I would NEVER begrudge another mom because she is not able to do that.
We need to stop all of finger-pointing, and mom-bashing. We are all doing the best we can, and should be lifting each other up, not tearing each other down.
You may have raised your kids without reading a single book, article, or word of advice, but if you look back, I am sure there is something you would have done differently if you had known better. Just because they are "alive" dosen't mean you did a perfect job.
Respectfully yours,
J. - a mom in the 21st Century.