I suggest exploring other ways to relax - have your hubby give you a foot massage, other times a back massage, listen to a relaxation tape, do some yoga exercises ending with a meditation/relaxation session at the end; take a nice warm bubble bath, listen to relaxing music; earlier in the evening go out on a jog or bike ride or exercise walk, then follow up with a nice shower, and then a massage from hubby...
And most of these things can be combined in various ways, it does not have to be the same routine all the time.
And then also try to figure out what the root cause of your anxiety and stress is, and start working on that! The stress and anxiety are symptoms only, and not the problem itself. So figure out the problem, and then work towards improving that situation. It may not be easy, it may take time and some ingenuity, but it will be so much healthier all the way around!
And then you can drink a glass of wine to celebrate, and don't need it to self-medicate on a regular basis.