Young Mother

Hi C.,

I'm Beth and I can also relate, I'm 25 with soon to be 4 year old twin girls. I've tried some of the Moms groups in my area and basically had the same experience at all of them- I was labled "the young one", it absolutely made me crazy. I'm happy to be a mom at my age and my friends have no idea what it's like, like the "meet me in 15 minutes" calls..... I love to get out of the house when I can, but as most Moms know..... 15 minutes is pushing it. I know how you feel.... if you need to vent, or just gab aboput being a "young" mom (quotes because I don't feel too young at ALL), please feel free to contact me!

~Beth

Im a young married mother also I am 23 and I have a 3 year old(he will be 3 on tuesday) and I am expecting another... all of mine and my husbands friends are single and loving it also... if you wanna talk let me know... im from Neptune

hi C....i live here in bowdoinham im 44 and my children are grown im going thru the empty nest thing...im single still my name is T....i guess what im trying to say i would love to give you a hand or if you just need someone to talk to...im lonely without my children my oldest visits but my youngest is in iraq...well the offer is open...my email is ____@____.com

Hey Courtney, I know EXACTLY how u feel! I'm 23 soon 2 be 24, I have 2 kids, 4 & 2, I work part-time and will be going back 2 school in Jan. For most of the day I stay home with the kids & work at night & I find myself feeling pretty lonely too b/c like u, most of my friends who are my age don't have kids & can't really relate. They spend most of their time clubbing or whatever & I still like 2 go out every now & then but it's not the same. That's pretty much why I signed up with Mamasource in the first place. Anyway, feel free 2 write me back & we'll chat. :)

I can definitely relate. I am 22 years old and I am also the mother of 2. They are both girls and they are 2 years old, and 5 months old. I stay at home with them. My friends don't understand when I tell them that I cant go out with them whenever they want to. It seems like we are drifting apart because of the fact that they can't relate to my current situation.

Hi Courtney,

I can understand exactly where you're coming from. Although I am not married, it seems as though I don't have anything in common with a lot of my friends anymore either. I've also learned that just because your friends may not have children, it's still fun to go out once in awhile to break away. Take Care and hope to talk to you soon. Ali

I'm in the same boat! I just turned 25 and I have a almost 4 year old and a 1 year old. All my friends either live with their parents and are still single or live in apartments and go out all the time! We are the only ones with kids and every time I meet someone young at a playground or in my neighborhood they are the nanny! All of my fellow playgroup moms are in their 30's and I am the "young" one. I always feel left out. Email me if you ever want to chat! ____@____.com

I know exactly how you feel!!! I'm 23, married and the mother of one-year-old Marik. I love my son and husband, but I'd like someone my age to hang with and talk to. I have some mommy friends, but they are in their 30's (not a bad thing, my husband is 34), but there's a difference in being a 30-something year old mommy and a 20-something year old mommy, right? So, I completely relate to you. If you'd like to talk or hang out with the kids and stuff, PLEASE let me know. I am always looking for new friends, and my son loves to play with other kids. He's especially excited because he can walk, well run, now.

Hi C.-
I am pretty much in the same boat. I have a 2 1/2 year old boy and none of my or my husband's friends have any children. I understand exactly what you are going through and how you feel. You can email me at ____@____.com anytime.

C.,

You aren't alone out there. Moms come in all ages, shapes, and sizes, and it's the commong experiences, fears, joys, and frustrations that bond us together, not the year you graduated high school, or who was on the radio at the time!

It is really great that so many women here have reached out to you. It's sometimes hard over the internet, because of the realities of distance, and there is just nothing like being able to sit down at a table and talk to someone face to face. I'd like to suggest a website called matchingmoms.org It's totally free, and you can look up moms in your area by distance from your house, their age, and the age of their youngest child. It was a lifesaver for me. I moved from New Jersey to Pennsylvania when i was seven months pregnant, and knew not one soul in the entire state! I wasn't going to be getting a new job, since I was planning to stay home with my baby, so it was me, a great big belly, and this big house. Through matchingmoms I found a couple of women in my area, they hooked my up with a playgroup, and I've made wonderful friends, done a lot of really fun stuff, and found a way to build a life in this new place. I feel like part of the community, instead or sitting around feeling like an out of place transplant, and it's really made all the difference.

Hi C.-

My name is D. and I'm 26 w/ two kids. My daughter is 3yrs and my son is 16mos. Where do you live? I'm always wanting to meet new people, especially ones who have kids. Feel free to e-mail me, I'm on MySpace (www.myspace.com/pawprints18) or ____@____.com

Don't feel alone, a lot of us are in the same boat!

-D.

hi C.,
my name is kelly
i have 3 month old son and 10 yr old son and i stay at home most of the time and sometimes feel that way becuase only a couple of my friends have kids but we don't get together as often because of distance. i am 29 yrs old soon to be 30. my boyfrinds friends are all single and he goes out 2 x week and his friends don't seem to understand that his life has changed becuase of our son. i live in norwood mass where are you from. e-mail me at ____@____.com if you ever wnat to talk

Hey C.,

I know exactly how you feel because I am a 24 yr old mother of 2 children as well. I have a 2 1/2 yr old daughter Natalia & my son Jacob just turned 1 last month. If you ever want to get together I have been looking for someone who I can relate to as well. I currently attend school full time on Saturday & am going to start working because I couldn't stand being lonely anymore. Well please message me at ____@____.com sometime & I will give my number so we can get together.

M. :)

My name is T., I feel the same way. I have two daughters Alison who is 18 months and very very busy and meagan who is almost 4 weeks old. Its hard to leave the house with both of them so i am home with them all day. We are always looking for people to play with that have kids but none of our friends are there yet.

Well I can relate to you. I am not married though. I am a 25 year old single mother. I have a 4 year old little girl. My little girl is a very special gift, I love her with everything I have inside me. I have been a single mom for about 3 1/2 years. I have sole custody of my daughter. Her father does not see her very much, He is court ordered to see her twice a week 6 hours at a time. He mabey takes her 2-3 times a month for 2 hours at a time. I work part time as a waitress and stay home the rest of the time. I don't really go out or hang out with any of my friends anymore. Most of my friensd are single and don't want to deal with a child. I am lucky though to have a wonderful boyfriend of 3 years. He helps me out so i can spend time with my daughter and alone without worring about bills and other things. He is wonderful to both me and my daughter. The only draw back is his family owns a resturant and he is the head chef so hes spends 13 hour days 6 days a week. So at the same time I am alone alot. I HATE to be alone. I wish he could be home more. I stay home with my daughter and do the mommy thing. Many times i have wished i had some friends that related to me. Hope to here from you soon.

A. C

Hi C.-
I am 26 and a mother of a 2 year old and a 1 year old. I know what you mean. It is hard, but I am sure that your friends are also feeling the same way that you have nothing in common anymore. If you are able to, maybe once a month, try to get together with your girlfriends, even if it is just for dinner or a coffee or a walk, this will give you some relief that you are not aging too quickly. Other than that, you are doing the right thing...meeting new people with similar interests. I have noticed that the older I get the less that age matters. My best friend is 42 years old and we get along so well, but that is because of our similarities. So, where do you live? I just found this wonderful playgroup (although I must admit, I have not yet been). They plan things and events and lots of fun stuff for the kids and it sounds like everyone has kids within our childrens age. Maybe you would like to do something like that? Or, maybe we could meet up or just chat through here?
A.

C. it sounds like that you need your time to do you . girl having time foryourself is hard with all the life you have but also chose to be married so talk to your husband about going out together without the kids i am divorced and founf out that all my life i had my husband for finacial support and not being there. my current fiance does everything with me and we fin things to do for us . just talk to your husband and gout with your friend with out the kids and you should feel better.

I am not married, but do have a 3 yr. old. Although I am a single mother, I think you are blessed to be in your situation. Some people spend there whole lives trying to find the "right" person. Being single is not easy. I much rather meet someone I would spend the rest of my life with than be single in this messed up world. Anyway, you said something that hit home. When I was with my daughter's father, I also felt alone. I don't know if this is true for you, but sometimes we try to fill our lives with so much so we don't have to face the things we don't like about ourselves. This is the conclusion I have come to. I used to need to be doing something at every second of the day, or I felt unhappy. I finally realized (at 28 yrs. old) that I was really unhappy with a lot about myself. So I began staying alone when I had the chance. At first, I hated it, but after improving some of the things I was unhappy with, I don't mind being alone. I found that once I was able to embrace my strengths as well as my weaknessed I accepted me for me and don't feel alone anymore. If this doesn't apply to you, just disregard it, but if it hits home, I'm glad I could help you out. In any case, just hang in there.

C.,
My kids are older now but my husband and I had the same problem years ago. All of our friends were single or married w/o children. We decided to have a "game" night every week or two at our house, friends came for drinks, snacks, and a good game of monopoly, trivial pursuit or whatever. They usually shared snack duty too, and that way our kids could go to sleep at home but we could still have fun. As they began to have families we switched houses, taking sleeping bags for the floors for the kids who had to "travel". As the kids got a little older my husband and I signed up for country western dance lessons at Vo-Tech. It was not expensive, one night a week for 2 1/2 hrs, and it got us out to visit with other adults of all ages. We really weren't into country music in particular, but we had a great time trying it out, and getting out! Vo tech offers alot of different classes for different things, so if you can get a sitter even one night a week, do it. We stopped taking the classes some time ago, but have formed some great friendships and now meet for dinner once every month or so. Of course there are always "mom and me" classes for mom's and their kids, try the YMCA out in Hamburg. Good luck -

I can definetely relate. I am a 22 year old mother of 2. Bryana will be turning 5 New Year's day and Aryaliz is 6 weeks old. I have very little friends because I feel like they are at a different level in life than I am. Most of them are single, in college, without any responsibilities and just like to party. I am way beyond that!! My only 2 friends are 29 year old both. If you want to talk emial me at ____@____.com in Providence, R.I.

Hi C., I was a young mom once so I understand what you are feeling. If you need some advice or just someone to listen to you, I am the one. Years of experience has taught me to relate to the younger crowd. I am 41 years old and I relate well with my children. My eldest daughter is 25yrs old and she is a single mom with an almost 7 year old. My daughter in law is 21yrs old with a 1 and a half year old. They are currently staying with me and I help her emotionally and in whatever else I can. A mom's job is hard but with good support we can over come any obstacle. Please feel free to contact me if you need to just have a friend to listen. Take care. N.

being a young mother with 2 kids isnt easy for anyone. i had my son at 20 and by 22 found an instant family with my husbands kids as well. i found i had nothign more in common with the friends that i had once i married and the kids came along. they were all single and free and it seemed like all of a sudden, since i was the mature one, we all just drifted apart. now i have a new group of friends. mostly people who have kids as well. now i have somethign in common, we exchange advise or whatever and i love it. i now have people to relate to and they relate to me. so yea, i know what you're going through. it takes time to adjust to being a mom and a wife and in time....you find a new group of people who will relate to you as a mom. so i hope you find freinds here. i'd like to be one of them!

Hi C.. i can definetly relate. I am 28 years old, and have a three year old son. I stay at home with him, and at times am very lonely. The neighborhood that I live in does not have children the same age as my son, or myself. This makes it hard to really get together with anyone. I have friends my own age, however, they don't have kids, and are often annoyed if I can't go out for a drink at night, etc..I live in Warwick, and if you want to write me back, I could send my personal email address to you. it would be nice to talk to someone else who is finding it hard to have friends that are in the same boat.

Hi C.,
My name is K. and I'm 25 and I have a 6 year old and a 3year old, both boys. My best friend lives two states away, and I really don't have any friends up here, none with kids. I work full time and go to school full time and my husband works full time. I know how lonely it can feel to not have a friend who is also a mom. If you ever want to talk just send me a message! Good luck!!
K.

Hi! I can completly relate! I am 25, I have an amazing 21 month old son, but I am the only one in my family and the only one of my friends with a child! It is very hard to find someone to relate to what a mom goes through on a day to day basis! please feel free to contact me anytime! If you message me I can give you my personal e-mail! I would love to talk to someone in the same boat that I am in!

i am 24 also with two kids, I hang with hubby and thats it. left all my friends in CA.

Don't worry, I feel the same way. I am 25 and have a 2 1/2 yr old daughter. Mine and my husbands friends are all single. Some have children but are not in a relationship so it is different. I can totally relate to your situation. If you ever want to get together and talk, send me an e-mail.

I'm 21 & feel the EXACT same way! All the girls i used to hang out with never see me anymore except for a select few. I have a good friend that has a young son, but shes always trying to find someone to watch him so she can go out! i dont get it. I guess im just not like that. So, if you need someone to talk to, im here. Im going through the same thing myself.

I know exactly as to how you feel. I am a 26yr old mother and wife been married fro over 5 years now have a daughter who is 20 months old and work 50+ hrs a week as a restaurant manager. I know how you feel. I have no one really to talk with besides my mother and we all know that is not the greatest all the time.
Good luck with your request

Hi C., I am also 24, a married stay at home mom to my wonderful 7 month old son and finishing my degree part time. I do have a handful of married mommy friends but you're right all my (and my husbands) single friends just can't relate and thats frustrating. They feel neglected since we never have time for them and then when you do go out sometimes I find myself missing the fun parts of that lifestyle. So I hope its comforting to know that you're not all alone!

You can email me at ____@____.com if you like and we can chat some more and be married mommy buddies!

I can completely relate. Iam 26 with three kids and one on the way and am a full time college student. I used to atend playgourps and such and made some friends but now that i'm not at home with my children full time, i've even lost track with those people. I cant relate to anyone at school becasue they are young and most dont have any children and dont seem to have time or energy or even know how to make friends outside of these two realms. My boyfriedn still has no problems going out and hanging out with his few friends but i'd feel so guilty besides the fact that i dont have nay to go out with lol! Where are you located? I'm in plattsburgh ny.
-marie

As a young mother, I graduated about 3 years ago and I have a 21 month old son. I have tried to keep in contact with friends from school and other students that attend the same college as myself. However while they go out and party, go shopping, and no cares in the world I am taking my son to the playground or an animal farm. Children have a way of turning your life around. I would love to find more moms around the area to set up play dates with. I miss the social conversation with people other than my son ( not that I don't love chatting with him too...).

Hi I am in the same situation. My name is G. I am 23 and have 2 beautiful daughters Madison she is my oldest she will be 3 in March and Zoey is my yaoungest she will be 3 months. It is hard having single friends they just dont understand that you have diffrent priorities. Sometimes I make plans and then something comes up with the kids or I cant find a babysitter and they get mad but what can you really do? Well if you ever want to talk you can email me at ____@____.com

Hello! My name is A.. I am 25 and have two step-children ages 8 and almost 12! My husband is 35. I am very young to be in this type of situation, so you can imagine my friends don't understand either! I love my life and my family, but my friends that I have that are my age have no clue! I am always looking for other moms my age to hang out with or even make play dates! I know what you mean about being the "young one" imagine having a daughter in middle school!
If you ever want to chat I am always around!

I'm not really in the same situation as you right now, but I can relate to you. I had my first daughter when I was 17, so most of my friends, (all but one) were always out doing the single, no kid things, like going on road trips, and basically whatever, whenever. It always did suck, but at the same time I had no regrets. Now I'm 30, married with 3 kids,(ages:12 yrs, 21 months, 4 months) and I still have quite a few friends w/out kids. I also have quite a few with kids. I guess people just start families at a much older age now a days. So even though I'm 30, I definately know where you are comming from. E-mail me sometime, I'm always looking to meet new people with kids and hang out. ____@____.com

I definately know how you feel. I just turned 25 and my baby is 3 1/2 mos old. All of the friends that I made in college are single & we don't relate anymore. I breastfeed so I joined La Leche League & made a group of friends there that all had babies under 1 year and are all younger moms! That was wonderful & now we get together 1 or more times a week plus plan family activities which is really nice too. I also joined www.meetup.com which I would totally recommend. You can find mom groups in your area that way. GL & just know that you aren't alone! :)

Hi C.,

My name is J. and I am 29 years old and I have a 14-month-old daughter. I am a married stay at home mom. I work twice a week in the afternoon. Since having my daughter my life has changed and I'm looking for other moms to relate to. I would like my daughter to have more playmates also. Where do you live? I live in Yonkers, New York.

I no how that is and im not married.... and im 22 with a 3Year old if u want to talk e-mail me @ ____@____.com (AIM)jill3584

~*J.*~

Hello C.,
I so with you on this one. I am 24 a single mother of two young ones, My friends who do not have kids do not understand a lot about my life. They are always like lets go out so get a babysitter If it was only as simple as thatand they don't understand how I love to spend time with my kids. So would love to get to know you or some other mothers out there. to talk to and maybe have play dates with the kids. You can e-mail anytime at ____@____.com.

Hi C.!!
Looks like there are lots of moms who know exactly how you feel!!
I am 33 and have 20 month old twin boys! My ex-husband and I split up when they were 7 weeks old....that was a hard thing to go thru with 2 young babies at home!! He and I get along great now and he is the one person I can still talk to about everything (even dating!!!) But I feel alone a lot too....and being a single mom is hard too!
Feel free to email me anytime!!
where do you live??
~K.

Hey there C.!
My name is A. and I just moved to ME a few months ago.
I have met some really nice folks at the library. I think most libraries around have some kind of baby group. The one in Augusta is terrific, but if the one near you isn't fun, try another town. You don't have to be a member of the library to go. Usually, there is a little storytime or some rhymes, and when it's over, the mommies, daddies, and babies just hang out and talk. I've met several excellent people that way, in fact, we now have a weekly lunchdate after babyday at the library!
Also check out the La Leche league. They are an orrganization that helps with breastfeeding issues, but the best kept secret is that it is actually just a great place to meet other moms and find out what the heck they're doing all day!
Most LLL groups meet once a month.
Other places where I've met folks include the local pet shops, the kids love to see the hamsters and ferrets.
Also, I go to kid-friendly restaurants like Friendly's or Denny's. Some days, there are nothing but moms and babies there!
So I hope you get a chance to meet some folks as quickly as I did! GOod luck! A.

I know exactly how you feel i just truned 28 but like you most of my friends are single and are still out party dateing doing what most single poeple do .. After awhile you do come to get use to it if they are real friends they will still make time for you.. there are also groups you can look into for mother with children Like cumminty action. you might be able to be apart of that.. i recently just moved to everett this past year and like you haveing a hard time finding people to hange out with .. So look into groups you might find one to you likeing i hope this helps ~K.

Courtney
I am 25 with three children and married. I so understand what you are saying it seems to be getting alittle easier to find freinds now that are married and are having children then it was a few years ago. I had my first baby when I was fifteen and my friends stayed close but I kinda of driffted away because I could no longer relate to them. Now that most of them are starting to have children we are getting closer again. Me and my husband have been toghter for ten years and he is almost ten years older then me so alot of his friends were having children around the same time we were. So his friends and there partners became my freinds. Also I am finishing up college aswell and I have found that there are older people that go to my school and I connect more with them then the poeple around my age. If you ever need to talk you can email me at ____@____.com One thing to remeber though is that you do need that adult converstation and not just from your husband so try and find it somewere. Hope I helped.
S.

Hi, i just turned the big 30 and i can remember at your age i felt the same way and found a co-worker same age who also felt the same way. you just feel out of place and old, and old fashioned. i know i've been there, but your not alone. i guess we just grew up and matured alot faster than the others. i sounds lots of fun that they're having and then i found that they were seeking for love like the love i already had at home with my family. of course it doesn't show, but my bestfriend used to party and have so much fun, but then is still envy of my family and love that i have found. sometimes i wish i didn't grow up so soon, but then thinkof it more positively and is thankful of having them. my husband and i go out together and have fun. try it, it's fun. we'll do a bar scene, rent a room at a hotel, go to the movies, go out to eat alone ....main key is without the kids!!!!! With the kids we have bbque parties, or get togethers like watching the games or fights on tv or even playing cards. try it. you can invite yours and his friends. and if you have friends with kids tell them to bring them too to entertain your kids. have a section for them and for you guys close by. make the best out of it and have fun.

try joining some playgroups! or even just go to some story hours at the book stores.. get out there and try to meet other moms in the area!!!You do move away from your friends whenyou have kids, you sort drift away, so you have to make new ones.. keep in touch with the old ones though... they'll be in your boat one day and will need advice!!

Like everyone else I totally relate to your problem. I am 24 and have two boys. They are both a little older than your kids so hang in there it gets easier.

I can relate . Im twenty five and have a daughter who is almost three. My husband works and I stay at home with our daughter. None of my friends have boyfriends nevermind married with children. Some only want to hang out with me if I meet them at a bar which is okay maybe once every month or so but not that often. Number one its too expensive plus a baby sitter and i feel guilty. They wont shop with me anymore cause I have to bring my daughter ... they don't ask me to go to a movie with them cause i guess they think i cant get a baby sitter. My husband has no friends that are the same age and married with children.. it can get lonely sometimes i feel like my friends are my mom husband and daughter....

Hi C.,

Welcome to the world of being a mom. You are not alone in your feelings. You are a young parent in todays world and I think all parents feel left out by the world when our children are young. I am 39 with two kids and another child that is my husbands. My oldest is 9 years and my youngest is now 41/2. I am finally getting a life. For the first time I have been able to go out to dinner once a week and find time to excercise while the kids are in school. I found joining groups helpful in meeting other moms. There is a light at the end of the tunnel and the beauty of your situation is that your kids in five years will be in school full time and you will only be 29 years old!!!! Hooray for you. I did not have my first until I was 30. Although I enjoyed my 20's with freedom, I am wishing I had done it the way you are. It may seem as though your babies will never get to a place where they do not need you everyday, every minute, every second......They will. Next year my son starts Kindergarten and I will have time to myself again.
Do you have a library near you? In my town the library offers great story hours and craft hours for little ones where you can take your kids for free and meet other moms with kids your age. It helps to talk to other moms and know that you are not alone in your feelings and your situation.
Good luck and just enjoy them while they are little. It does not last long and then you will be wishing they were tiny again.
Take Care,
A.

IM A 27YRS OLD WITH A 5 YRS OLD SON WHAT EXACTLY ARE YOU LOOKIN FOR! SOME ONE TO TALK TO OR DO YOU WANT TO GO OUT OR JUST HAVE THE KIDS A PLAY DATE.!!! IM CONFUSED WHAT IS IT THAT YOU WANT. Email me ____@____.com

Hi. I may not be as young as you now but at one time I was in your situation. I was married with two kids before I even graduated high school (which I graduated on time). The best thing to do is find a program in your community that gets moms and kids together. Sometimes it can be play groups or even some sort of parenting help/support group type thing. Also, try the local playground, just strike up a conversation with the mom of the kid(s) your kid(s) are playing with. It may take a few tries but it is possible to meet people and make new friends who will understand where you are at. Who knows, they might be right where you are! I'm 34 and have a 7 year old who lives with me and my present husband. My older children live in Michigan, one will be 20 in November and the next one is 17 and a senior in high school! I still feel like that sometimes but part of it for me is I live in a very remote area. I would be more than willing to e-mail or chat whenever you nedd or want to. You can e-mail me at ____@____.com.

Hi C., my name is S.. I'm too am a married young mom with no one to relate to. My son is 2 and my daughter will be 1 month on the 21st of this month. All my friends have kids also but over the last few years we have lost contact. We all have our own lives going , distance and time have made it hard to do things together any more.

I am a 25 year old with twin boys. im married and i love it. but i too have the same feeling about my friends other than the ones at work, who are older than me my friends have no children and my husbands are the same way we don't due much but i would like it if my kids are around others there age.
i was going through school and i work at night my husband works days so it's hard to see each other and do adult things
things will get better

hi C.!
i am a young mother as well and i know exactly what u are going thru! and it is hard it feels as if no one out there really cares after u have kids well the friends that u used to have anyways. well that is how it is for me anyways. and yea sometimes i miss the times going out having fun with the girls being free lol. but i will never take back what i have now. i have three kids of my own ages 3 1and a half and 5 months. and i love being a mom i am a young mom as well 21 and getting married in march . but if u need a friend i will be here if u want to e-mail
C.

I do understand how you feel - it's good to know that there are other moms out there that I can relate to. I feel like I don't connect to my non-mom friends anymore...it's like they just don't really know the stresses I am dealing with even though I've known them most of my life. I miss that friendship so much, but my children come first. I can't just drop them off somewhere for a week and come visit...it's just not right. My kids go with me everywhere - there is no reason for me to go anywhere that is not appropriate for my kids. Anyways, it's refreshing to know that there are parents out there that know just what's going on.

I'm the same way, my daughters are 2 and 8 months, and I'm pretty much the only one of my friends who has kids, not to mention we just moved from Maryland up to Bridgewater, MA. So I dont know many people anyways. Feel free to write me back!

I know exactly how you feel. Im 27 years old with 2 youngens (My oldest is going to be 2 in December, and my youngest is 6 1/2 months). Only one of my friends has a child, but she lives about 45 minutes away, so we never get to see eachother. I would love to meet some moms around here that are around my age that have kids around my kids ages. Maybe we can start or find a moms group. I personally work during the morning, but after 3pm its just me and the kids.
I can completely understand what you are going through. With the exception of my one friend, all my other friends are either married with no kids or single, and have NO idea what it means to be a parent. They will call me up the day before they want to do something and say "Hey, why dont you come along" not thinking that I would have to find some kind of child care. By now most of them have given up on trying to get me to do things. But just know that there are people who completely understand!!!

I completely understand. I am going to be 23 this month and I have a two year old little girl and am 7 months pregnant with my second child. My husband and I were married at 21. Every single one of my friends and my husbands friends are single and out on the town, while we sit at home with our daughter. If you ever want to talk email me... ____@____.com

Hello C.,

I also can understand. I am a 28 year old mom of a 7 month old son. My husband works all day and then at least once a week goes out with his buddies to have beers and do whatever. He has all the freedom. He has offered to come home instead of going out, but I feel that it would be unfair/selfish of me. I also feel "trapped" in the sense that I do not have many friends that are in the same boat. I have 1 friend who is single but awesome and another who has two kids and we can get together only when we work. We just happen to work together.
I am home all day with my son, Dylan, and then at night we barely have that much time together. Our time is spent getting dylan fed, bathed, etc. Not that I regret it because I love being a m,other and I love my son! I woould never trade it for all the friends in the world.

The other bummer is that my husband travels every other week for a week at a time. So, when he comes home on Fridays, I am already off to work and I work all weekend. It would be nice to see him but it's the job. I also think it would be nice to have more friends to get together with! So, I understand how you feel.

If you want to talk, and I know you have had plenty of offers, you can get me here or on www.myspace.com/jm2578

Good luck and take care!

Jenn

OMG YES!!! I am finishing college by night, my husband is in school, my son is 3 months!! And all my friends are single and loving it. It's hard to just do anything. I would love to have friends that were on the same page as me, then when I want to do something, we can do it as a family!! But omg yes I can soo relate. And me and my husband are from Rochester NY! So we have nooo family here, and minimal friends, but all of us don't have kids and significant others. I love my son with all my heart, but they weren't lying when they say kids can change your whole life. I love my friends but we are reaching to the point where our common grounds are non existent. Maybe we can become friends and work on this together!!

I know how you feel! I'm a married mother of two boys (4 year old and a 1 and a half year old) and I am 22. Most of my friends were in college last year, and it's alittle difficult to switch from diapers and housework, to college frat party. I'm thinking about putting together a play group, I think it would be great to get some mothers like us together with the kids, I know both mommy and kids are starved for people their own age in my household. Just started a new job so I'l have to see how my scedule pans out

I my name is T. and I have a similar situation. I am 20, engaged, doing classes through WI by mail and have a daughter. I moved here in August and only get to see my fianacee on weekends because of work, so I get lonely too. My friends are all back in WI and I haven't met anyone here really to talk to, and definately not anyone my age. If you ever want to do anything durning the week, I have a 11 month baby girl,named Alexia. My e-mail is ____@____.com if you'd like to e-mail me and talk more.

Hello everyone! I guess i'm inthe same boat. I will be 27 Oct 30th and i have twin boys that are 7 y.o. I just recently moved to Lowell and dont know anyone right now. I am a single mom, that works full-time in the day and take online classes at night. I am very open to meet new people in my area. Please feel free to email me @ ____@____.com Take care!

Hi there C.. I can understand how you feel. I am not 24 but I am 30 and have two young children of my own & am married as well. However when I was your age I was the only one in my age group that was not married. When you are not married & your friends are, usually there is not much in common anymore. Because they don't know how you, as a mom spend your days. But now at my age I am finding what you are going through. I'm not seeing too many mother's my age & you can feel left out. As you no longer have friends to hang out with when you need some down time. That's kind of why I joined MamaSource so I can link up with other moms that I would not have met in my area.
I live in Washingtonville & would love to lend you some support & get to know you, so you can feel like you have an outlet. I know at times even though you are married you sometimes feel like a single mom as well. That I have experienced both times when my sons were born. Even though my husband was there for me he wasn't in the way that I needed him to be. But don't let yourself feel lonely or isolated as this is not a good place to be. Please feel free to contact me at any time if you need to talk or whatever it is that you need at that moment.

Hi there, My children are older now but when they were little
I took them to a momther/father and child group called Gymboree. I met two women my age there that have become life long friends. You may want to seek a parent child group.
Another way I found it pretty easy to make friends around my age and with kids around the same age as mine was by taking them to the park. Best of luck to you.

Hi C.,

I'm T., WAHM to 13 month old Michael. I know just how you feel, as most of my old friends don't have children and don't understand how wonderful, yet challenging it is. I started a free Mom's Group on Yahoo - groups.yahoo.com/group/WestBayRIMoms - we get together for kid-friendly outings or just to chat. It's really been great to connect with other moms. We'd love to have you join us.

T.

Hi there C. I'm M.. I can totally relate to how you feel. I'm a 22 year old mother of 2 ( a 3 year old and 18 month old girls) and we just found out yesterday that number 3 is on it's way. All of my friends are busy with their own lives and stuff so i never get to hang out with any of them anymore. If ya ever want to chat or need a new friend who knows where you're coming from email me (____@____.com). :)

Hi C.:
I am 28 yrs old...married with 2 children..my daughter is going to be 6yrs and my son is going to be 2..when i got pregnant with my 6yrs old the same thing happened to me and my husband! I have one really good friend who stood by my side and still is there. this is when you are going to find out who your real friends are!!! it will get better...dont stress :) if you need to talk im here too...good luck!!

I know how you feel, i have a 2 year old at home also it is very hard at time especially when none of your friends have children, im also married, and im the only one out of my friends who is married with a child. i try talking to them about things but they just dont understand its very fustrating at times, so i can relate to what your saying. please feel free to contact me at anytime ____@____.com

Hello There
I know how you feel. I feel the same way at times. I am 26 I am a stay at home mom of a two year old little boy and my newest addition is almost 4 months old.
My email is ____@____.com if you wanna chat
Take Care
T.

I can totally relate. I just turned 28 and am pregnant with my third child, due Jan. 5. My oldest is 6yo. At her school functions I feel so out of place. All the other parents are 10-15 years older than me and at a different place in ther lives than me. It's tough. I've been struggling with feeling alone as a young mother and wife for many years now. I am home with my (almost) 3 yo during the days for now, until I go back to school next September. I know how you feel!!