15N1/2 Yr Old Wants to Lie

Kids in their teens quite naturally want to begin the process of emotionally separating from their parents. They want privacy and independence. If your child tells lies that keep his/her life more private, that may be quite normal. It's not necessarily healthy, though.

I would suggest you read How to Talk So Kids Will Listen, and Listen So Kids Will Talk. You can read part of this really practical guide to communicating with your kids here: http://www.amazon.com/How-Talk-Kids-Will-Listen/dp/038081.... I think you'll be impressed with the possibilities.

I don't know what he or she is lying about. I do know that my son started making a transformation around that time from a big story teller to someone who is confident with himself and does not need to exaggerate anymore. I know a divorce can be hell for kids and it does make your life miserable. Just try to be patient and deal with things regarding the drama when you get into your own home and do not have the outside influences. Teenage girls are the worst for the drama!!

As they say this too shall pass. When my oldest daughter turned 15, I decided that her brains fell out. She had always been responsible, respectful, honest...she turned 15 and got mouthy, bossy, rude, was sneaky and lied all the time. We had our share of battles. Lots of discussions about what behavior was expected and about what the consequences of not following the rules would be. After about a year and a half, she finally came to her senses a little bit. She is no longer with the boyfriend from hell, and now has a responsible boyfriend. She doesn't lie like she did anymore, though she still stretches the truth from time to time. They have to show their independence and it is good for us to let them, but making sure they understand why it is important to tell the truth makes a little bit of difference. Not because you want to be in her business, but for safety reasons. Sometimes the truth isn't much fun, but find a way to make sure she knows lying can be a problem and keep open communication. She will roll her eyes or act like you're the devil, but in a few years she'll see. Good luck and hang in there.

What is he/she lying aobut?

That can be any age depending on whether they feel they can lie. But at 15 they start wanting to be an adult and think they are already. They think they know more than you and that their friends know more than you and you need to stand firm, continue loving them and don't let them get to you. Hard to do.