Sorry if I sent this reply twice, but her goes it...I agree with the suggestion of taking her to see an occupational therapist. There is a wonderful practice in Gunbarrel, just outside of Boulder called Colorado Therapies ###-###-####. They are professional and effective, gentle and holistic minded. I would also consider taking her to see a HOLISTIC Pediatrician. I emphasize "holistic" because they understand treating children from a little different perspective. It could be something as simple as a vitamine/mineral deficiancy or other diet related issue. A wonderful one is Deborah Hamilton out of Boulder go to http://www.holisticpediatric.com/
PS I too have 2 girls one year apart and am studying to be a midwife...bless you....it aint easy. :)
L.