2Yo Good Sleeper Now Waking up Crying Around 2 Am - 4 Times This Week!

Updated on August 21, 2010
J.G. asks from Spring Branch, TX
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I don't know if y'all have the answer, but I am hoping something you guys say sparks some grand idea about how to fix this.
BACKGROUND INFO:
My son has been a great sleeper thru the night since he was about 10 months old. He's been out of his crib for a few months now and hasn't rolled out of bed since the first week he was in it. He goes to bed easily and doesn't get out of bed to play around.
THE PROBLEM (sorry to be so long and detailed. I am hoping you see/read something I don't see):
The problem is that Thurs he woke up at midnight, came to our room, I guided him back to his room, told him "night night time." and he fell back asleep. Friday he woke up crying, came to our room, etc, and this went on for 3 hours! He'd stay in his room for about 20 minutes, then come back to our room crying. Needless to say my hubby and I were exhausted Saturday! Then Sat, Sun, Mon all was fine. Tuesday night he did the same thing. Since my husband had work the next day (I'm a SAHM), I didn't want to do the whole back and forth from his bed to my bed and crying thing, so when my son woke up around 2am, I laid on his floor next to his bed until he fell asleep. It took an HOUR and a HALF for him to go back to sleep. He wiggled around in his bed, a couple times he whined "mama" and I put my arm up to touch him. I went back to bed after he fell asleep around 4am and then he didn't wake up again till 7:30 or so. Wednesday night fine, then last night Thursday, the same thing. Again, my hubby had work early the morning, so I laid on the floor by son's bed for an hour till he fell asleep. I ask my son "Why are you crying" and one night he said "boo boo" and when I asked "where?" he said "leg." One time he said "head." Then for last night, he said "Noise" (Wed night there was a bug outside his window stuck between the glass and the screen and it made a loud noise. We fixed it and he slept fine thru that whole night).
MY IDEAS:
We've tried telling him if he says the whole night in his bed, he gets juice in the morning for breakfast (we mormally only give it in the afternoon after his nap). He liked getting his juice on the good nights. He didn't seem to care about not getting it on the bad nights. I've thought about getting a white noise machine, but I know my son will press the buttons and probably mess it all up. His room is a little louder with road noise (louder than my room). But we've been in this house for a year now, so he should be used to it. He doesn't have any caffeine during the days. He has one regular 2 hour nap during the day.
THE QUESTION:
So what else am I not considering? Is this an "I want mommy" phase? I don't want to be angry with him if he honestly doesn't feel good. But he's eating okay and doesn't complain about anything during the daytime. Maybe it's gas? His poops have been pretty hard. Maybe something going on there? What do I feed him to soften his poops? I've had a nightlight for a LONG time. The other night I noticed it cast shadows on his wall. Maybe he was scared, so I turned off the light. He doesn't seem to care either way. He will turn it on or off if he wants to. He has not seen any scary movies. Just the same old Toy Story 1 and 2 about 20 times each. He hasn't seen Monsters Inc even.

I appreciate all your ideas. I do not want this to become a habit. That's my biggest fear. His hard-wood floor is not comfy to sleep on, nor is this helping my mood the following day. Without good sleep, I am a grumpy mom. I do not want him to sleep with me and hubby, as I know I will not sleep well and that's just not the way we want to raise our kiddo.

UPDATE AFTER 4 ANSWERS:
He has some plush animals that he used to let sleep with him. Now he tells me "no" and throws them on the floor. He only wants his hard Buzz Lightyear toy in bed with him. When I put him back to bed during these awful nights, I remind him that Buzz is there with him and put Buzz right next to his pillow. I like the Christmas lights idea. Thanks. A fan - something we could use in Texas anyways. That would be a good one for him to stay cool PLUS the noise. His overhead fan is not loud enough unless I turn it on higher, in which case it's very squeaky. A fan on top of his dresser might do the trick. Molars -- I think he has them all. He got his teeth early. I just counted. He has 10 teeth on top, 10 on the bottom. Looks like they're all the way through. Perhaps I can take him for his first dental visit soon. A gate -- my mom brought me a baby gate today. She had some in her closet. I think that if he wakes up, he will stand at the gate and cry. Our house is very small. It's probably only 10 paces from his doorway to our bed, so if he cries for 40 minutes my husband will go bezerk. I will try the matchbox cars idea. I will try anything. I need to run to the dollar store and get new goodies. Thanks everyone!

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So What Happened?

Last night I tried the gate. He climbed over it in a matter of seconds. I also tried bribing with a different reward. Tonight i'll try something else (more white noise w/fan perhaps). I had not thought of an ear infection. I guess I figured he'd say 'boo boo ear' or grab his ear during the day, which he hasn't. Perhaps we need to take a trip to the Dr and the Dentist. Thanks again. I'll post another "so what happened UPDATE" if I ever find out what works or if I find out any issue he may have medically.

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L.W.

answers from Cincinnati on

I really am sorry to hear about your little guy. my DD is 20 months old and I am just waiting for this to happen. It could be the molars. Does he have a lovey??? like a favorite blanket or doll? If not, I would let him pick one out. Secondly GET A FAN. You dont need a machine for white noise, just put a fan in his room. If you are worried about the nightlight casting shadows, how about getting a small string of xmas lights and put it around his dresser? my sister in law did that and it helps to not cast the shadows (she had colored lights that had a dimmer on them)
Lastly, my daughter has an aquarium for kids in her crib. However her friend who is in a toddler bed has the same aquarium in his bed...and every time they wake up, they use that aquarim to put themselves back to bed.
I also like another moms suggestion of putting a gate up. It will be a long couple of nights but he needs to know when its night night time, he needs to stay in his room. Have a talk with him before you do all this so he understands what is going to happen (the juice reward etc) and that you will not go and put him back in bed.

Also forgot to mention....he is big enough, have you tried to reward him with matchbox cars???? every time he doesnt get up in the middle of the night, he gets a car. They only cost $1.00 or less...you can probably find used ones on Craigls list ...but I think $1.00 each night is worth a good nights sleep. He may like that as a reward vs a juice...and then a punishment is to take one of his cars away.
Good luck

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J.P.

answers from Boise on

Have you tried talking to him and telling him that he needs to stay in his bed until you go get him in the morning? If this is sudden, does he have his 2 yo molars in? Those have definitely interrupted my son's sleep. Maybe put a baby gate at his door, so that he can talk to you through the monitor?

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B.B.

answers from New York on

We are going through a very similar situation with our 2 year old. Since about 10-11 months, we have had absolutely no problems getting him to fall asleep and he always stays asleep (except if he is teething).

When he wakes up at night now (not every night, but certainly more than he ever used to) he is totally wigged out. I'm thinking maybe he had a bad dream? I sit with him in his room for a little bit then leave. There are times where I have to go back in - when he is screaming like someone is pulling his fingernails out one by one. And then there are other times where he whimpers a bit, but I don't have to go back in. I am very good with not giving into the nighttime shenanigans...but you know your kids screams, and the one he gives sometimes I can tell there is something wrong. I'm not going to let him be scared to death in his room by himself.

On the nights where I just can't get him to go back to sleep. I start our bed time routine all over again. We go to the kitchen, get water, read a book and I put him back to bed. Sometimes it works, sometimes it doesn't

It is hard because I don't want him to get used to us coming in. But because it doesn't happen every night, and I can tell that something really is bothering him (it isn't the "I want attention" cry/screaming) I go ahead and comfort him.

Good luck, and I'm gonig to follow this post to see how others reply

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K.A.

answers from San Francisco on

Ear infection? My daughter wakes up a lot when she gets them, and that is pretty much her only symptom.

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C.T.

answers from Fayetteville on

I totally understand and sympathize with you-my dd did this and we thought we were going to to crazy-she woke up crying sometimes 4 times in a night it was horrid. We did just what you are doing, nightlight on or off? is she scared? have a bad dream? I would sometimes lay beside her bed til she fell asleep.
One night her daddy and I had a date night, we went to barnes and noble and sat and read what we could find out about this-and found that it is very normal. We read the same advice over and over and over. You let him cry for 5 min, then for 10, then 20 then 40-don't go past 40 minutes. Each time you go to his room lay him down tell him its time to rest and leave-it totally stinks to do, but it also totally works. I wouldn't do rewards for this simple b/c he's too young to associate the juice with the sleeping all night- right now his waking is not something he has control over, he has to learn to go back to sleep by himself. My other dd came to our room every night for months, everytime I took her back to her bed and told her it was time to rest-she still comes in occasionally but goes right back to sleep when she gets to her bed. This will pass, but if you do this consistently I think you will see results in just a few days. God bless

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