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I do disagree with the last comment. She doesnt want you to tell your husband b/c he will be very very upset. I understand that completely, we all were once 16 years old. I would inform him, but make it be known that you have taken care of the situation yoursef as she needs her mother now more than ever. If her father doesnt play a huge role in her life, it is possibly she is rebeling to get the "male" attention she desperately is needing as well. She may not admit to being "active" in that way, neither did I and I found myself pregnant at 16. Parents differ on the birth control issue and so do researchers, however if she is already coming home with hickeys on her neck dont be surprised that she is not having sex. Many believe putting their daughter on b.c. promotes sexual intercourse, but at least she is protecting herself against an unwanted baby. They are going to explore at this age and go with this fearless kind of action that it wont happen to them. Those that do not fear, it often happens to them. Also, she is 16, there is NOTHING wrong with putting your foot down and saying "I do not expect this kind of behavior...etc." She is still living under your house, your rules, etc. Take it safe, put her on b.c. If she ends up pregnant who will take responsibility emotionally and financially (YOU the GRANDPARENTS) (unless you were my family, I got kicked out when I informed them, so I raised my child on my own, without help, not knowing how to raise a child and it has really affected me emotionally...)