B., after reading your story I could cry along with you. I've been there. My husband and I were both in the active army and we have a 2 1/2 year old son. we have no family around and lost track of good friend because we moved around so much. there are no date nights, night out on the town and no time with a great friend. But.... I survived! I made it work. My husband works until 12-12:30 am six days a week. so I stay up on the weekends. I created a routine with my boy he gets a bath, brush his teeth,I read him a story, we say his night prayers and then off to bed. No questions! so until my husband gets home I spend time doing what ever I want TV, computer, Phone, listen to music, play with the dog ect.... Then my husband gets home we eat a fancy dinner, watch a movie together, drink some wine stay up and talk about life, what's bothering us or whatever. Remember what you put into your marriage that's what you will get. the same goes for parenthood. Invest with your family. Also always communicate. Good luck and say a pray that God gives you patients so you can handle anything life throws at you!