Arguing with My Other Half :(

Remember to enjoy each other's company, & take vitamin D to help keep you as balanced as possible when pregnant.

Rub his back when you talk and he rubs your back when he talks. Feels good and keeps the talking to only that which is important. :)

And the first year with baby is the WORST on a relationship :(

I would go to couples counseling. You don't have to be married. Just go to make sure you guys are on the same page once baby comes (congrats, btw); tell him you know you're hormonal and you want to go to put yourself in check, and you need him there to voice his opinions on the matter.

Both agree, that you are both stressed.
Then, realize that men and women express and manifest stress differently.

Then, write down everything that needs to be done.
One list for Him.
One list for You.
Organize yourselves.
Men... CANNOT read a woman's mind. Nor do they think ahead 20 steps.
So, organize yourselves and write it down on a list. Then post it up on a wall... with a time-line.
And your Due Date in big red letters.

Then, everyday, you BOTH, do what is on that list.

Also, make sure you BOTH discuss, what is expected of both of you, once the baby comes home.
What chores HE will do, and what chores YOU will do.
Delineate it, NOW.
Not after the baby arrives.
Organize, yourselves.
This will help.

Talk to him in a calm manner. NO Man, likes to hear a screeching high-pitched voiced woman. They tune you out. Talk calmly to him.... and in a neutral manner.
Don't 'blame.'
Approach it as you are both a 'Team". Tell him this. AND THAT, you both have to have each other's back.
It is not a 'contest'.
It is about being a TEAM.

good luck,
Susan

i had the same problem with my husband during both of my pregnancies. it was just hormones with me. it continued for about 1 to 2 months after i had my babies. then everything went back to normal. my husband finally just told me, "let me know when you are in a mood so i know when to back off and not talk to you". i still do this, that way he doesn't say something to piss me off even more. when my husband gets up in the morning, he's a bear. i've learned not to talk to him until he's had a cup of coffee.

sit down and make an appt to talk about what is going on. Literally tell him what you just told us, explain that you feel like you have not been close lately, tell him that you know that you have not been at your best BUT you are pregnant.....take turns talking about what is bugging you and tell him how important it is that you communicate and get through these last two weeks. it is almost over, everyone's emotions are running high. just take some time alone and don't blame or judge, you are both in this together.

Like others have said, it's hard to communicate at this point. My husband and I had a *terrible* fight on the way to childbirth classes because I had felt like he wasn't involved enough for months and hadn't talked to him about it effectively.

First, understand that your hormones are making your responses to him more impatient than they would usually be. Take a few deep breaths and figure out what the real issues are rather than focusing on every little thing that bothers you.

Second, understand that he's probably trying to cope with the changes that your whole family is facing, especially if this is his first experience with pregnancy and childbirth. For you, the pregnancy has been real from day one. He doesn't feel the physical changes you do, so it's not as real to him. My husband avoided preparing for baby because even though he wanted us to have kids, he didn't know how to process the change.

Third, he needs to know how you're feeling. Be blunt. Don't imply anything. Babies don't always arrive on their due dates. Even if you do have two weeks left, you're going to be exhausted and uncomfortable every day. Emotionally, you need everything to be ready NOW so you can rest and relax through your last couple of weeks.

After baby arrives, it will still be tough. Try to remember that he'll feel left out and jealous for your attention. You'll be even more hormonal and tired. Try to prepare him that you'll need his help even if what you ask of him doesn't always make sense. Don't wait for him to read your mind.

And, as a last note, try to get your bedroom life back on track as soon as you're medically allowed after baby arrives. I may sound trivial, especially when you're not going to be interested, but it makes a difference. When my husband and physically live like roommates instead of lovers, we fight and bother each other a LOT more.

Congratulations and best wishes!

I agree with Rachel! The first yr with baby is really difficult! You both are going through a time that you know will forever change your life. Sometimes that is hard to except. My husband helped up until I had the baby. He was scared of the baby. He finally came around and I couldn't ask for a better daddy!