So I have a (sit down) FREE NIGHT! My inlaws have DD, my husband is playing out in his band and I am free! I've dreamed of a night like this and so now I want to go out. I feel obligated to go out. Why? Because I have a free night and that's what I'm supposed to do. So why am I sitting here on mamapedia? I have a cough. I'm tired and I feel like vegging. So would you go out to see your hubby's band 40 minutes away or just veg? (I've seen the band plenty of times). I'll probably regret it but now that I'm older and have a child, it's more about the free morning than the free night. Agreed? I might also mention that my close GF's live out of state so I'm used to going out alone :-).
Thanks for all your input. Looks like I stayed in. I might regret it sure, but this is the one night I've dreamed of..reclaiming my momcave. Sure I'll regret it but I am hacking away. Gotta check the chocolate chip cookies :-)
You said it: you feel obligated to go. You don't want to go, you feel obligated to go. It doesn't sound like a huge deal if you don't go - so don't go. Stay home, order in a pizza, open up some wine, watch some mindless TV and just relax!
Either way have fun.
I've had this happen and i usually stay home and i always regret it.
Its sad when sleep is more applealing than a night on the town.
My husband is in 3 bands. The only time I don't see him when he plays is when I can't get a babysitter. ...and 99% of his gigs are at least 45 min away. I like spending time with him whenever I can. ...and it's not like he plays the whole time, his bands have openers and breaks, and we usually get dinner together before his gigs.
And he's sexy up there. He's sexy everywhere, but he's by far the best musician in all his bands and it's just sexy to see him play so well:) I'm proud of him. He still isn't one of those jerk show-offy musicians. Most musicians are and they don't play half as good:) It's my chance to just stare at him all night. lol.
When I get a FREE NIGHT - it's a long soak in the bath tub (I add 1 cup of plain yogurt) while sipping a glass of my favorite wine with a mud mask on my face.
My skin feels great all over and I feel so relaxed.
How often do you get to spoil yourself?
Going out can be such a chore.
On my free nights I take a long hot bath with bubbles and a book, have a yummy drink, eat whatever I feel like (maybe even get a steak and cheese sub or something I do not usually eat), and lay around watching tv. No way would I waste it on going out and spending energy on anything but relaxing. This is just for YOU, enjoy it. Of course I do go out with girl friends but usually when hubbie is home watching the kids. Totally free in your own home is a luxury to be cherished.
See, I think the best part is the vegging. Think about it....how often are you in your house ALONE!! How often do you get to walk around in your underwear, or take a bath for an hour or two, listen to the kind of music you like as loud as you like, read a book, watch a chick flick instead of a comedy, action or a movie where the main characters are drawn/computer animated? How long has it been since you've gone more than an hour without someone calling your name?
This is a beautiful time and they are few and far between. Take a hot bath, while you read a book or listen to some music. Then wrap yourself up in a robe or warm towel, go to the living room and watch girl tv and enjoy the peace of being at no one else's disposal! Yeah, YOU!!
It is good to just be sometimes, instead of always doing. "Be still and know that I am God" Psalm 46:10
Nothing like a peace of mind in a peaceful house.
You go girl!
I realize this was last night, but I'm with you! Tonight my son is gong to his dads. My friends have invited me to go out w/them and I really would prefer to stay home and enjoy the quiet and get some sleep. If I go see my friends it's a 1 1/2 hour drive one way and I know I'll have to stay the night, not sleep well, etc. I feel like I'm wasting my chance, but like you, I feel obliged to go, I don't want to. So... I think I too am going to be lame and stay home and watch a movie or do something else w/out interruptions from my little guy!
My boyfriend stood me up tonight (He has our son and COMPLETELY forgot that we were gonna meet at the bowling alley after I got off of work). So I have a free night as well... Yet, here I am... On mamapedia... Watching TV... Not partying. Lol
I'd get all prettied up and go see my hubby!
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Sorry I'm late in answering....
Every Friday night is my night. I have no responsibilities other than taking care of me!! That sounds like what you did - you vegged! YOU GO GIRL!!! Don't feel guilty that you didn't go out...HOPEFULLY you curled up on the couch or in bed and took in the SILENCE!!!
There are times when I go out alone. Usually more in the summer than in the winter - but when I do go out alone - I go to our Town Center and people watch....read a book and people watch...
Last night my GF and I went to see "one for the money" and had dinner at the Olive Garden.
Ah, solo time...enjoy it!
Go! It will energize you and your cough will be fine if you take some cough drops. You can veg later! Go, go, go~!
Dawn
Get out and go do something! Anything! You can veg out anytime. God what I wouldnt give right now to have a night to myself. I am super jealous right now, and my kid is driving me crazy!
Yes you are being lame - go see your husband play, he will be so excited!!
enjoy your quiet at home :)
LOL... my husband is a muscian as well... I'd skip the show, personally. If he's anything like most I know the only time to hangout is just after load-in (6-8 hours before the show for about an hour) and then they're busy until payout (after the last band, or at 2am, depending on the venue and the deal they have worked). Don't get me wrong, I've gone to hundreds of shows... but you don't go to spend time with your spouse!!! To schmooze for them, network, be a visable sign of support for other bands in the lineup, spend a few minutes with your spouse or friends... but it's not hanging out all night.
((It's, quite literally, like showing up at a 9-5 dayjob for those not in the music scene... they're working... it just happens to be at a place where most people are playing. You can do it and expect them to spend time with you on a VERY rare basis, the rest of the time, they've got maybe an hour.))
My nights in... I would REVEL in. Do what I want, when I want.
I would take a bubble bath and hit the bed with a book I have been wanting to read. The J D Robb book that came out last has not made it to my house yet...that's what I would do.
Sounds like you are having the perfect night. I love having the house to myself.
Do whatever you feel like doing! But whatever it is, make sure to spoil yourself a little. If you go out, dress up, if you stay home, do something special for yourself like eat ice cream out of the container, take a long hot bath and break out the candles, read some chick lit. Enjoy!
make yourself happy....forget peer pressure!
I had a free couple of hours while the hubby took the dd out for dinner, and I spent it watching Sherlock and part of Sherlock Holmes. And I felt it was time well spent. :-)
I would take a bubble bath and go to bed early. Awesome!
I would totally veg. Put on sweatpants, get a bag of Doritos, and lay in bed watching Lifetime movies. When I get (rare) time alone, that is what I like to do!
