Do You Think You're "Romantic"?

Updated on May 06, 2011
S.G. asks from Fort Eustis, VA
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I think I might be one of the least romantic people I know. My husband and I kiss and hug and hold hands, and our sex life is definitely satisfying to both of us. BUT...for whatever reason, I generally prefer a "quickie" over a longer experience; I don't want much more foreplay than it requires to, um, be satisfied; and afterwards? I don't really care much at all about the cuddling. My husband says that I'm like a dream woman. But am I weird? Is anyone else like this? Sometimes I feel much more like a guy in that I am kind of focused on the sexual destination, not the journey, you know?

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N.G.

answers from Dallas on

I am about as romantic as a carrot.

I hate holding hands. It throws off my balance. haha!

I don't like to kiss, I don't like to hug. We have an awesome sex life but when we are done, I don't like to cuddle.

I don't want to be touched or cuddled while I sleep.

I don't think it has anything to do with sex really, I'm just not a touchy-feely affectionate person.

Now my kids, I could hug and cuddle them ALL DAY. Nothing like hugs & cuddles from my little sweeties. Weird, now that I think about it.

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A.G.

answers from Houston on

no, not really. Im kinda like a guy during sex

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R.L.

answers from Roanoke on

I think my husband and I balance each other out. At the beginning of our relationship, I was more romantic than I am now, and he was less romantic. But we've grown together and learned each other's "flavor" of romance. I'm a little less romantic now, and he is more so. Now we can satisfy each other almost all the time, surprise each other some days, and be totally ordinary other days. I love our relationship.

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L.P.

answers from Pittsburgh on

I told my fiance from the beginning that I am NOT into marathon sex. So I guess that makes me a little like you!

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D.P.

answers from Pittsburgh on

I can relate. Hey--we're BUSY people! We're EFFICIENT!

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K.M.

answers from Chicago on

I am not a romantic in any way at all ... nor is he ... sometimes we get in the mood to be more romantic but really we just like to get it done!

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S.H.

answers from Honolulu on

HA!
What a good question!
This is funny.

I was romantic. Yah, when dating.
All day was fine with me.
Not now.
Especially after having kids.
I am not all into scenarios. Now.

Me- yah I like quickies too. That is also passionate and good. Especially after having kids, well quickies are good. I'm not into cuddling after, either.
Funny thing is, my Husband is. Maybe cause he is European. He is more "romantic" than I am.
But I don't make it a point with him or tell him. That would cause conflict. Or he would think it was a critique, personally. I don't want him to think that.
The sex is good though. We like the same things.

No, you are not weird.
I like quickies.
I'm like a guy, that way.
Quick and good. Its passionate. Still good on quality. :)

J.J.

answers from Los Angeles on

Im a romantic & so is my partner. It extends out of the bedroom, what happens there neither does or doesnt spell romance, it can be part of it, but its the day to day, lovey dovey stuff that gets me. We share many special, romantic sweet moments- that are sometimes romantic days..

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R.J.

answers from Seattle on

Romantic? No. Passionate? Yes.

I love physical affection/ physical contact. Sure I'm up for a quickie, I'm also up for marathoning. I LOVE the different moods in sex, and how each of us change and affect the mood of the other. I prefer to wake up with my legs tangled, or an arm thrown over me. I LOVE nonsexual physical contact... be it things like dancing, or an arm over shoulders, or just walking in that 'distance' that puts someone in your physical space.

I'm not romantic at all (EVERY guy I've ever known has been more romantic than I am), but I'm very physical.

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