Our baby still sleeps in our room. She has a cold and last night she slept in the bouncer next to our bed to elevate her. She was on my husbands side when she woke up and midnight crying. I went and made her a bottle and then gave her to my husband to feed her. Halfway through the bottle she started coughing a lot. Mainly because my husband was half asleep and she wasnt elevated enough. So, I took her from him, sucked out her nose, gave her saline spray, changed her diaper, finished the rest of her bottle, and we hung out for a little bit before I moved her bouncer to my side of the bed and put her back to sleep. I wake up around 6am and thats usually when she wakes up. I went and made her another bottle and gave her to my husband to feed her so I could get my daughter ready for school. My husband feeds her a bottle and then they usually go back to sleep together while we are getting ready in the morning and getting to school. After he fed her, she wouldnt go back to sleep, so instead of actually waking up and playing with her, I walked by and he was like "Omg, can you please take her, I have been up with her all night!"
Whhhhat? No you havent? Now hes going to pretend all day that hes tired because he was up with the baby all night! Hes still sleeping it off. lol
Does your husband dream about being helpful?? lol
Dad, can my husband hang out with you today!! ?? lol ;)
NEW ANSWER:
Send him on over! I'll teach him all my laundry tricks AND show him how to cut baby fingernails. I got skillz!
ORIGINAL ANSWER:
I'm dreaming that I'm doing the laundry right now. And also doing some work-work. And playing a bit on mamapedia. And did the vacuuming already this morning. And doing the dishes.
Wait....
I'm awake. I'm actually doing all those things right now! :)
I can't complain here. My hubby actually is pretty helpful most of the time.
I remember shortly after we got married when he used to want a party every time he took the trash out though. Woo hoo! He would actually come tell me each time he did something - like he was expecting a pat on the back. I don't think he liked it too much when I started doing it back to him. "Honey, I washed your clothes, dryed them and put them away for you." "Honey, I washed dishes, dryed them and put them away." "Honey, I cooked dinner." "Honey, I vacuumed and dusted." "Honey, I scrubbed the kitchen floor." "Honey, I scrubbed the toilet, bathtub and sink." When I started telling him everything I did he finally realized that taking the trash out was not some big accomplishment. Luckily, that was a long time ago and he really does do a lot to help out now. :)
"I wash all the dishes"
"I do all the laundry".
It's a dictionary problem, I think. "ALL" equaling approximately 1-7%
Sort of like rulers. You know... where 1 inch equals 2.2 inches??? (We're not converting to metric!!! An inch is an inch!)
S'alright... in my own mind 2lbs = 1lbs ;)
A Sweeping Generalization:
This is why WE have the babies, and THEY don't.
;)
well, you baby him and then wonder why he's a baby. why do YOU get up and make the bottle? if you're going to do all that, you're already interrupting your sleep cycle. if he's going to help, it should actually....you know.....help.
if he's doing it wrong, correct him (courteously of course.) then trust that he won't break the baby and go back to sleep.
but if you're mamafussing over everything he does, what's his incentive to learn how to do it right?
my poor husband never had it as good as yours. i went back to work (nights) when my first baby was 5 weeks old, so they got thrown to the wolves. but it had its upsides. my husband was a fully involved dad from the gitgo and has a great relationship with his boys.
stop coddling yours!
khairete
S.
I think some people once woken up and having interuopted sleep don't return to perfect sleep and feel that way. If my 5 year old wakes up more than once for M. to tuck her back in after a nightmare I feel like I've been up all night and am so tired even if it only take 3 minutes each time. I think you deserve a sleep in day or nap though=) You seem so pleasant for being up all night and then getting up at 6am
My husband doesn't dream that he is helpful, he actually believes that he is helpful!
Oh and if he does something like "clean" the bathroom, He expects me to throw a party to celebrate the great job. He will wait until I say something about how clean the bathroom is and if I don't he acts all hurt because he worked so hard and I didn't notice. I purposely don't compliment because all he did was not even a fraction of what I do everyday and I don't expect a parade, nor do I get one! LOL
Yes.
And they dream about it, everyday.
It is actually a HALLUCINATION of theirs.
But they don't know that.
They actually live in a different Matrix than us.
oh ya- My DH is once again home unemployed- I work 40 hours if not more a week-
When I get home there are usually a couple of baskets of unfinished laundry that need to be folded and put away the dogs are in their cages usually have not been fed and the boys are waiting for ME to make dinner
Then he will proceed to tell me what he did ALL day- " I did some laundry(sort of) I cleaned the kitchen(started the dishwasher) I cleaned the house(ran the vacuum) and NOW he is tired so I get to take over.... yep I feel you
LOL
You know what REALLY whipped my husband into help mode?
When we had to (for about 8 mos) work opposite shifts when our son was really young.
He got up to speed REALLY quickly once there was no wifey safety net.
Thank you for this post!!
When the kids (2 of them) were little, my husband traveled about 75% to 80% of the time. When our son was about 3, hubby says, "hey this has been wonderful having the two kids, why don't we add to our family and have another one". Now, mind you I was working full time, taking care of the house, the yard and kids. My answer was "yeah, I bet its been damn delightful for you! When your job can support us comfortably without me working, then I will think about adding to our clan."
We only have 2 kids!!!! I told my husband he lived on Fantasy Island and I was in Hell's Kitchen!!!! :)
Uh, yeah, lol! Why do men do that? Mine does the dishes once and then claims that he has worked so hard all week long doing housework.
Something is definitely wrong w/this picture!!
My husband and I are VERY sarcastic people... Both of us "ALWAYS" have to do to "EVERYTHING" in the house :)
Ha ha
My husband has done this too. He will talk about changing diapers when our daughter was a baby. He maybe changed like one or two. I have always been the main care giver to our daughter since he is always working.
My husband does help alot, and like Julie F's husband, thinks he deserves a pat on the back for everything he does. He does make sure he tells me everything he does - he's so proud of himself. But I do give him that pat on the back because I certainly don't want to discourage him!
