How Do You.... - Akron,OH

Shower. Read. Ideally, go do something fun. (for me, that's sports of various kinds). Drive w/ the music on loud.

I allow myself an indulgence (bowl of ice cream, latte, long shower), then I deep clean something. I don't mean just dishes and laundry. I mean toothbrush on the bathroom floor. It's so therapeutic for me..gets out energy and frustration, AND I see results. I can go till I drop some days. Hope you feel better. :)

Wine! A nice sangria or moscato!

This is coming from a person who suffered for years with depression. The thing that worked best for me was exercise. Aerobic exercise Jogging in placeor jumping rope for 3-5 minutes with 25-50 jumping jacks at the beginning of my day. Also guarding my thought life. I had a terrible habit of reciting aweful things to myself which would drag me deeper and deeper into my malaise. Learning some uplifting scriptures to replace those negative deadly things was also essential.

I hope this helps. It helped me along with counseling.

I make myself laugh. If there is no one around to make me laugh I laugh at myself.

Awe, sweet lady. I peeked at some of your posts and I can understand why you are feeling grief.

I wonder if you can't shake it because it's not time yet? What I am learning for myself is that sometimes I just need to grieve.

When that is the case I:
try to be gentle with myself
connect with my girlfriends
drink tea by the fire
take too-hot-baths
take walks on the beach with my kids
listen to music that feeds my heart
write / music / dance / create
cry (learning to do this)
support others too
try to breathe
pray for strength, solace, and serenity

It's okay to grieve. Sometimes, it's the best thing I can do.

Big hugs. I'm sorry it's rough...

edit: forgot one - F U Autocorrect is an immediate cure

My kids are my wubbies. I will put on a movie the kids like after they come out of the bath all fluffy and soft and smelling good in thier little robes. They cuddle up next to me on both sides. I put a throw across us and settle in for the healing. I kiss thier little heads and smell thier hair and remind myself of all my blessings and center myself on what's really important.

If they are not available, sometimes it's a bottle of wine and I sit in front of the tv laughing at sitcoms. If it's really bad, I go ahead and watch something emotional, like Greys Anatomy and just cry it out, go to sleep, and wake up refreshed and renewed.

I stop the self-pity, start telling myself truths instead of exaggerated lies about a situation (I tend to make things bigger in my head when I dwell on a thing too much). I turn to Scripture and remember what Christ has done for me. I sing Psalms. I pray. I list things that I have to be thankful for (the list is long). I decide to change my self-focus and consider people who are hurting more than me. I will say that my woes, when I have them, tend to be less severe than many other people, and often are of my own doing. I often need to repent for something, forgive for something, and chose to be joyful. Not always easy, but effective.

Eat. Alot. Im sorry your not well love and I hope it turns around. Tomorrow is a new day love!

chocolate?

Seriously though...... call a friend you really trust

I hate to say that I either eat too much, or don't eat at all. There isn't much in between. I don't have too many days like that now, which is great.

I am sorry you are crying. That sounds so hard. I didn't read your story, but I just want to tell you that I feel bad for you.

you tube, search Jessie Duplantis. I promise he'll have you laughing. Even if you don't believe his way, he'll still make you laugh.

I go to bed early or eat chocolate ice cream or watch a good show or movie or read a good book.

Well I know what I do may sound weird compared to some of these others, but for me I have suffered from severe anxiety and some depression since my daughter had heart surgery at 2 months old (she is almost 5 now and doing great) but then we found out she had Williams Syndrome which was a lifelong battle for all of us and constant medical bills - I lost my job after that and finally found work online but it's not near as much as I was making before but I get to stay home - then hubby lost his job but it turned out okay because now he is in a better job. Anyways, with all the money problems and everything I have had a lot of trouble getting through. My daughter is really my only source of comfort anymore. But sometimes when I get really depressed about something, I like to sit down and put on shows like Dateline or 20/20 and watch them. They make me realize that I should be thankful for what I do have - seeing those whose family members have been murdered and kidnapped and their stories. It takes me out of my own "wasteland" and think about how much I have to be thankful for. I also watch horror movies (of course that has to happen after the kiddo is in bed :) I don't drink alcohol, never have and never will so I can't say whether that would help me or not LOL. Anyways, you take care of yourself and your kids and try to think positive. Good luck. Oh and I forgot to add that my favorite music always helps me - I turn on the tunes when I am down and just sing my heart out - gets my daughter dancing and singing too and that always brings me up a bit :)

I read all the responses--lots of good insight. I would also add a gratitude journal--simply that. A place to write and thank God for even the smallest things in our lives.

I read my Bible and pray. I try to surround myself with friends that are supportive during the tough times. Then I reciprocate when they are down.

Cognitive behavioural therapy will help. I like to relax and unwind with a glass of wine, but alcohol is a mood suppressant and will not help you lift yourself out of your blues. Kimberley was right too. Sustained aerobic activity will lift your mood. Also, it is good to laugh so funny comedies will help, and are a great distraction from your problems. Then, take some positive action, call your sister and invite her to visit. Perhaps your families could spend Thanksgiving or Christmas together so you can reconnect. All your other problems you should hand over to God (my mom tells me this all the time, and even though I have little Faith, it is very comforting). Good luck!

I can totally relate!! My self-medication is chocolate!! Then I'll sit down and purposely watch a movie I know will make me cry even more and just get it all out! At least for that day! Then after I feel like I'm all out of tears but still emotional, I will run up and down my stairs about 20 times to get my energy going (which cheers me up!) so I can continue with what needs to be done around my house. Other times I'll just go outside and walk around; go to the library or just something that makes my mind switch gears. Trust me, having just lost both my parents within 18 months of each other, I can totally relate with being emotional. And I have sibling problems on top of dealing with everything else, too. (Yes, I read your posts!) Some days suck but then I look at my precious children and think nothing else matters but them and then I pick myself up and get moving!! Good luck!! Let us know how you're doing. We really do care on here.

chocolate always helps, at least temporarily!

I have a friend that I walk with and we vent on our walks back and forth, so nice to have someone to share with. Also, I put on my i-pod and run, I always feel so good afterwards, even a long walk with the i-pod helps!!!

Good luck!! Sending hugs and smiles your way!!!

Give my day to God.
Eat Chocolate
Get you favorite Eat out meal and a movie that you've been wanting to see
Alcohol in moderation though
Grab some friends and have some real fun. I mean fun that makes you laugh like amusement park fun. I know this may not be the time of year for amusement parks but there has to be something else.

Pray, read my scriptures, watch an inspiring message, talk to my husband who is a wonderful 'counselor'. Take a shower, read a book and drink some hot chocolate, do a craft or bake cookies.

I don't know what is happening for you to feel this way, but obviously you need some comfort. Here are a few of the short little inspiring messages that always help me. They have religious undertones, but even those who are not religious, can find great comfort and inspiration:

good things to come:
http://lds.org/ldsorg/v/index.jsp?autoplay=true&index...

lifting burdens:
http://lds.org/ldsorg/v/index.jsp?autoplay=true&index...

you're never alone:
http://lds.org/ldsorg/v/index.jsp?autoplay=true&index...

my new life:
http://lds.org/ldsorg/v/index.jsp?autoplay=true&index...

forgiveness, my burden was made light:
http://lds.org/ldsorg/v/index.jsp?autoplay=true&index...

hope ya know, we had a hard time:
http://lds.org/ldsorg/v/index.jsp?autoplay=true&index...

Take a long hot bath or try to take a nap if you get a chance! Sometime it helps me if I set down and drink a glass of wine or beer! You could also talk to a good friend about what is bothering you let it all out don't hold your emotions in that seems to make it worse for me! I hope your day is better!