N.D.
Boy can I relate! I am the aggressive one and my husband the passive one, just like in your situation. I am 33 and have been married for 7 years and have been disrespected by his family for most of that time, over and over. All I can say is to try and let it go. Otherwise, you will end up with so much anger (like me) over things you can't control and it is just not worth it. I have decided that I deserve to be happy and so do my kids. Believe me, it's not fair, and easier said then done. But as someone who can relate to your EXACT situation and someone who has done more crying then laughing, husbands just don't change. If yours is anything like mine, and it sounds like he is, he just makes pretend nothing ever happened, while you and I are screaming inside because we want our feelings validated and the problem fixed. I could write an entire book, and maybe I will someday... if you want to talk more, let me know. Believe me, I sympathize with you and feel your pain. Congratulations on your pregnancy.
Take care. Let me know how things go.
N.