M.K.
HI mom,
Easy fix,
YOUR doing it wrong. Your trying to force him.
Children learn by watching,
TIVO or DVR or rent, and video where the kids are cleaning,
Barney has a clean up song,
Clean up
clean up
Everybody everywhere
Clean up
clean up
Everybody Do their share.
I sing that song all the time, and it works
I sweetly say , OK c'mon help mommy clean up
c'mon baby.
then I start singing, and picking up
and they pitch in, ( of course at 2 don't expect a miracle)
Next, My kids always listen
BUT my husband gets angry like you when they cry or still want to continue after a long day of fun,
What I tell him,
As long as they are listening it doesn't matter.
They don't have to be happy about it.
So next time, sing and ask him to clean up to make it fun for him, Don't get angry, just start cleaning up and don't worry about what he is doing, he eventually will do it, after about 4-5 times.
Next time he refuses you stop, physically get him,
take his hand to pick it up and place it gently in the toy bin
THEN he gets a time out.
When he does what you ask you praise him,
you say OH thank you my good boy , your great at listening,
WOW your fabulous, LOOK how smart you are,
Amazing , Baby I knew you could do it,
NOW remember, they don't have to like it as long as they do it.
He is a Boy, and boys are diffrent then girls.
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NOW YOU
have you made friends in this new town, do you have an outlet?
because you seem very stressed out. like you need a break.
second thing, parenting is not easy, and you don't go to college for preparation LOL
parenting is hard, draining, stressfull, time consuming, and worse yet THANKLESS.
no one praises you, there is no bonus, no paycheck, nothing.
So until you learn how to parent you will feel unsucessfull.
Join a mommy and me class , visit the library, and enroll him in a gymnastics class.
reason, he needs an outlet atleast 3 days a week.
first one you do together
second one together
third one he does alone.
Mommy and me is great it teaches them how to listen ad follow the rules and its active.
the library or an art class, great for quiet mommy time.
and gymnastics is great for burning off the energy, and following rules independently.
--You have the gym for you, what does he have for himself.
these things will help you bond, create a positive enviornemt,help you make friends, and show you that your kid is not the only kid who misbehaves.
good luck and email me if you want
M