J.B.
You're going to have to spell it out to him in detail. My husband has really slacked off, and I told him he had become really thoughtless -that the more I do the less he seems to care. You have to make it very easy for them most of the time. I send mine links of things I want; tell him exactly what I would like him to help the kids with,etc. It still irks the hell out of me though -especially given the lengths I've gone to in the past to make his holidays and occasions special. I don't do that anymore though -he gets things and cards and stuff from the kids, but I don't sweat it. It only makes me angry to do so much and for him to do so little. SO -spell it out! If he still doesn't do anything, then you have some deeper problems! Also -make it clear to him that it's not the amount of money spent -it truly is the thought that counts here! It's thought and effort and the fact that they considered us.