I promised my daughter that she could have a doughnut at the grocery store. So there we were ,patiently waiting for a lady to get her dozen of doughnuts so I could get my daughter hers. The lady smiles sweetly at my daughter and says, "I guess I am in your way aren't I?" My daughter smiles back, "Yes, you are." Gah!
The lady laughed and said, 'Well I asked didn't I?"
Being only 3 1/2 she just answered honestly, I can't fault her for that. She's probably too young to understand that that wasn't the politest answer. Sigh, was there a lesson to be learned here or was I right just to let it go?
Nah, she wasn't snarky. Just stated it matter of factly. It was funny, and I didn't say anything to her. Just thinking about it afterward was what prompted me to think, "Should I have said, "Oh that's ok, we can wait." To show my daughter a little bit better response? Honestly, I just drew a blank at the moment.
We are all born 'truth tellers', lying or telling a non-truth is something that is taught. Society dictates when it's appropriate and to what degree.
Let it go... :)
I would've laughed and said the same thing the lady said. Kids are so honest sometimes. If the lady was going to be nasty about it then she wouldn't have said anything if the first place.
Yes, the lesson was for the lady to ask a 3 1/2 year old a question that will result in the honest truth. Good thing the lady didn't ask her if she was too fat to be considering a donut...
All you do is smile as if to say, "Well, she is only 3 1/2."
Too cute.
It was polite for a 3 1/2 year old! Like the lady said, she asked! Your daughter smiled, didn't whine or have a fit, and didn't ignore or give the lady a dirty look. Your daughter was the epitome of polite for a 3 yr old!
I would have expected nothing else from a 3 year old.
Cute :)
Not everything they do needs to be a "lesson"...
You were right.
I would say you were right to just let it go. I'm sure the woman didn't give it a second thought. I would have probably just said "out of the mouths of babes!" and moved on. At least your daughter didn't throw a tantrum or anything while having to wait, so I would have been proud of her for that!
Plus, it wasn't something that hurt the woman's feelings. As my children got a little older, I would just explain to them not to blurt out things that would hurt someone's feelings. And we would do a little role-playing with examples so they would better understand what I meant.
With a cute little truthful statement like what your daughter said, I wouldn't worry about it.
If I were the lady I would have burst into laughter! This litte girl should not be taught about PCness until her world becomes jaded.... Honesty is a rare bird nowadays!
If your daughter said it with a sarcastic tone, then that would be something to nip in the bud. However, I am guessing she was just honest and it came across to the other woman as cute. I wouldn't worry about it!
HTH,
A.
i think she was perfectly appropriate, the lady handled it graciously and with humor, and you did just as you should.
:) khairete
S.
Honestly, I bet the woman loved it and laughed and told all the people she was buying dounuts for the story.
3 1/2 - totally acceptable and expected.
I love that your daughter was honest!!! I would have laughed just like the lady did!!! Let it go, mama!! let her keep her honesty!!!
Funny. Let it go. A lot of children don't even talk when spoken to at that age, so she was being social. I'd smile and let it go (what's the difference in polite and a lie in that situation, for her age?). When in doubt and my children say/do something that is age appropriate but not the best, I just smile and model the behavior for them. That way I'm acknowledging without having to talk about it to the adult that I saw that and we mean no harm, and I'm also showing the kids what to do.
I think that was cute, and the other lady was very kind too.
I love it. The conversation was not offensive in any way. The lady thought it was fine. Your daughter was being as polite as she could be at her age. As she gets a little older you can teach her more about being both courteous and honest - hopefully at the same time. In other words, you'll be teaching her about honesty, graciousness, and patience!
I think it's cute and totally expected at that age. When my son was 3 a friend of mine unexpectedly dropped by for a few minutes. He asked me for a brownie and I told him he could have it when they left. He sorta patiently waited for a few minutes as we stood and chatted. Finally he had had it and blurted out "Whenever are you gonna leave? I want my brownie!"
You were right to let it go. Your daughter smiled when she said it so that made it funny.
Just let it go. Now if she had said something mean or offensive then I would be worried. At that age they blurt out whatever is on their mind.
I happen to love that answer!!!! You go (little) girl!!
:) let it go. She was being honest and it was innocent.
kid's honesty can cause many parent's embarassment.
A nicer response would've been 'no. we're waiting our turn.' or 'yes. we're next!'
She probably was a mother/grandmother and understood just fine and probably had a laugh about it with friends later.
Dont stress it!
"Kids say the darnedest things!" Bill Cosby. Too funny, and very cute! I think that most adults understand that little kids just say what's on their minds, little kids are pure and simple, let it be! :-) Enjoy these funny(or embarrassing) moments! :-))
Let it go. She's only 3.5 yo & she wasn't snarky.
I think it's cute. It sounds like the lady did too. I have a 2yo & 4yo & they do & say silly stuff like that all the time.
She's only 3-1/2 so I think you had to let it go. After all, the woman asked and your daughter just agreed. It's not like she just came out with a rude comment.
