JFF (Sort Of): Does Your Spouse Know You Vent on Here?

Updated on May 07, 2013
E.S. asks from Hackettstown, NJ
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The reason I ask is because mine stumbled upon one of my posts (my bad), which was about him. He thinks this is an invasion of his privacy, despite major anonymity. Now I feel bad and have no place to vent!

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answers from Dallas on

I don't remember ever "venting" on here about my husband. Still, he knows I post here and doesn't care if it involves him. (Unless I was actually insulting or demeaning him, which he knows I would never.) We are all allowed a place to vent. I know for a fact he'd rather me do it on here, then to my friends he has to see and talk to!!

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C.O.

answers from Washington DC on

Yes! he does! I read some questions to him sometimes...we laugh at some of them...we wonder about others....

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My hubby knows I'm on here and we talk about many of the posts.

He said he wishes there was a guypedia. I told him he was welcome to join and that there were some guys on here. He said he won't saddle up to my martini bar if I stay off his basketball court.

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J.W.

answers from St. Louis on

Yes, and usually a lot of the questions cause me to vent to him.

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S.H.

answers from Honolulu on

No.
This is my own personal oasis.

He knows I come on here.
But not the venting about him, part.

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T.N.

answers from Albany on

Well, I don't really vent on here. And there is not "major anonymity"
which suggests privacy. Privacy is the very antithesis of the internet.

I do however very often share posts with my entire family, and together we have a good chuckle, eye roll, heavy sigh, etc.

:)

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S.L.

answers from New York on

Yes he knows we all vent on here, I think he is mature enough to know we all need to vent,

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answers from Dallas on

He knows but not to the extent I go on about my mil! It's really my way of clearing those negative feelings. He hears about a question on here about 3 times a week. He agrees that it give a wider perspective than we usually have.

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A.M.

answers from Kansas City on

Yep ...and he asks about the ladies/gents...does he come on here. I don't think so.

Edited: I actually don't vent about him...but if I did come here to vent...its nothing he hasn't already heard.

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☼.S.

answers from Los Angeles on

My husband knows I belong to an online mom's group ... that's it. He doesn't know what the site is or anything like that. I don't think I've ever really vented about him on here, though. Except that I've complained that the man will put dirty dishes in the sink when the dishwasher
is
right
there

ha!

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H.M.

answers from Dallas on

I have told him about the sight but he don't care. He does not let things get to him. And you are right it really is not because you have know clue who anymore is.

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I just read the question asking why people delete their questions. Here's a good reason why!

Hope he gets over being upset about it!

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H.W.

answers from Portland on

Well, my husband knows I type stuff here, but I generally don't complain about him here. It's kind of ineffectual-- I mean, you ladies aren't the cause of the problem, so it doesn't get solved if I bring it here. :)

Comomom: my husband would never leave the martini bar! He's a social butterfly (unlike myself) and is the best martini bartender ever. :) Loved the analogy!

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V.K.

answers from Minneapolis on

Yep. He knows that I vent on here about him, and he's okay with it. I don't have anywhere else to vent and I need an outlet. Everybody does. Would your husband prefer that you vent to people that know him? I would think that he would prefer the anonymity.

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L.U.

answers from Seattle on

Yup, my husband knows. I don't think he cares, or at least he hasn't said he does.
I always say, "the moms on my mama site" and he rolls his eyes. :)

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K.B.

answers from Detroit on

He knows I go on here, he doesn't know I've ever vented or typed anything else about him. He shouldn't care, but he's touchy like that.

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K.C.

answers from Washington DC on

Yep ... And he doesn't care. We share some of the info. He tells me to come ask the other mommas ... We all need a place to vent and he has his own, so this is mine.

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J.M.

answers from Philadelphia on

he knows i belong to a "mom site" and knows i ask questions i'm not sure he knows i "vent" about him although he would be happy because i dont vent to my guy friends who know him anymore. he hated that and always suggested i vent and ask questions to girls instead of my friends who happen to be guys

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