JFF?...Who's Your "Go To" Person?

I count myself VERY lucky - I don't have just ONE person...

I have:
* My husband
* my best friend of almost 40 years
* my sister
* my dad
and some great ladies (and gents) I have met on here!! <<<< These people? So glad this website brought them into my life!!!

I had an awful day yesterday part of which my husband refused to support me in dealing with my sassy mouth 10 yo. Went to a friend and managed to offend her somehow. Now I am looking around wondering who I can talk to at al since my sadness seems to be growing the more I look around for relief. I know it won't last but it really sucks right niw

My husband, best from junior high (long time), sisters, mother, mother's best friend (like an aunt to me), good friends (usually over coffee or a beer/wine) .. probably in that order.

It has always been my husband and right now it's hell because he died 10/10/15 and I see things happening in the area with new things going on and such and catch myself calling him to give him the news.

We were very tight and private. I do have a bff but on deeply personal things my daughter is my rock and we lean on each other. I'm also close with a dear Aunt and my dad.

Appreciate all moments, I know we all hear it a thousand times. I had lunch with hubby and within 2 hours he was gone. I have much to be thankful for but I miss him and his quirks terribly.

I'm aging and find I need to make some younger friends. My best friend with whom I shared most anything provided emotional support. She's now 80 with Parkinsons and some dementia. She usually doesn't remember the nuances that made our conversations.

My cousin wit whom I shared my house was always good to help me puzzle things out. He also took care of my electronics. He was the most dependable friend I had. He died 3 years ago and I'm still missing his physical and emotional support.

I'm in a group of 7 women who formed a support group 25 years ago. We do support each other as much as we can. We're all aging. Three of women have serious health issues.

Mostly I talk with my daughter. We support each other. My grandchildren give me much joy. When my love cup needs filling they fill it to the top.

Every few months I see my counselor. She is a great support and helps me figure things out. I have breakfast with another friend in the support group a few times every couple of months. Both of us are very involved in doing things we don't see each other very often. And we've never formed a phone friendship.

I've reconnected with a women who went to school with my brothers. She's 15 years younger, still working and is a recent widow. We talk and I visit her every so often. She lives 250 miles away.

So, I have a patchwork of supportive people. I stay happy because I see my daughter's family every few days. Otherwise, I think I might not be doing so well. Grandkids have kept me young.

I talk with my husband, but sometimes I need someone on the outside. I have no one unfortunately. It's very hard sometimes. No one in our family is close, and we moved a lot when I was growing up so I didn't make lasting friendships. Grew apart from the college folks. Now I'm a SAHM and I don't get out much at the moment. I really do wish I had someone to reach out to.

My bff. We met in high school, and even though we've taken very different paths we've stayed close, closer than sisters.
I am also lucky to have a "real" sister, another bff, my fellow mom/book club friends, a wonderful cousin and, until 4 years ago I had an amazing aunt as well.
I can't imagine not having all these amazing women in my life!!! I feel so, so sorry for women who only have their husband and children to lean on, because really, WE support THEM, we need our fellow ladies when it comes to supporting US, right?

My husband, my HS friend, a friend from work I've had for 26 years, and my childhood friend I've had since 6th grade (minus a few years when we were heading in two different directions).

My family of origin has never been a reliable source of emotional support .......ever.

I have been blessed with great friends and a wonderful husband. But I also understand loneliness and feeling isolated, and would not want anyone to feel that way. Anyone who does is welcome to PM me.

I feel so blessed with the dear friends I have been given in this life. No matter where I have lived, these incredible people have appeared. Many I've known now for several decades (like 45 plus years!), some just for several years. They have become my extended family, my village. There isn't just one, but rather, a group of precious, treasured friends and certain family members. I feel like I could call on them for anything at any time, and they know I am there for them always. We've shared life's joys and sorrows and everything in between.

This morning, for example, one of my best friends came to sit with me while my youngest had an endoscopic procedure. It's a common procedure, but I was scared, of course. My husband was out of town, and with no family here, my friend knew how much her presence would mean. I didn't even ask. She just moved her morning appointments around and told me she was coming. Love her dearly.

Another dear friend, who had also been here on this board in the early mamasource days, died last year. Despite her own hard fought battle with cancer, including numerous surgeries and rounds of chemo and radiation, she was always there for others, a true and genuine person throughout. She was someone I could trust with anything, and though I miss her dearly, the memories of times shared still make me smile and laugh, still inspire me, and give me strength.

I am thankful every day for all of these people.

I just "went to her", my dear friend of over thirty years. She's level headed, smart and one of the few people I trust with the big stuff.

Of course my husband is number one but sometimes you need an outside opinion. My Mom, who passed a few years ago, was such a source of love and support I miss her everyday. I could trust her to be honest but she always had my back in a way no one else ever will.

No one. I am not so lucky :(

I'm an only child and not close to my mom so I guess it's my husband. But also I have a best friend who I met just 3 years ago but we are like soul mates. We go to the same church and I see her a couple times a week and talk to her almost every day.

it depends on the situation. my dh is very level-headed and i rely on him to give me good real-world advice. like whether my brother would really be amused by the 'funny' t-shirt i got him for christmas, or offended. i'm socially clueless a lot of the time, and would make even more gaffes if i didn't have him to bounce stuff off. he's also got a razor-sharp insight into people, while i'm much more likely to take them at face value.
but a lot of my angsts and dilemmas are not in his bailiwick. most of 'em i just wrestle through with the help of gods and spirits, but when i need a human perspective i've got my bestie, a few family members, and occasionally my kids (i never want to burden them, but their perspectives tend to be golden so i do go to them in some circumstances.)
most of all, my favorite aunt. she's pure, solid wonderfulness, and she knows me warts and all and loves me like no one else does regardless.
and you lot! you are a very useful group.
:) khairete
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I have three female friends I call depending on what the situation is.These are three ladies I've collected in the last 16 years. One I met 16 years ago during grad school. Another I met 11 years ago at the end of grad school, and the last I met 5 years ago. These are the ladies I can tell anything too. I go to my husband too.

I don't go to my mom. No way in hell. Sad but true.

My husband. Wish I had more "go to" people I could reach out to.

I talk to my husband and when there are times he needs a break, because there are after almost 18 years together, I call on my mom. They're both my best friends, but that's how it should be, isn't it?

Definitely my work BFF. She and I went to HS together but never hung out. We knew OF each other, but didn't know each other. Now we happen to work together for the last 10 years and we eat lunch every day. Although she doesn't run in any other circles with me, I can talk to her about work stuff, life stuff, kid stuff, husband stuff. Having a nice adult lunch with a friend every day is pretty much the only perk about having a job, because otherwise I hate being a working mom!

Second would be my mom, I see her at least once a week and she has a similar outlook on life and knows me backward and forward.

After that I have 5 sisters. I can go to any of them, any time. But they all have their own daily struggles and usually the issues are ABOUT at least one of them, ha!

My mom, my husband, and my sister in that order. Unless it's about my husband then my mom and sister. ;)

My husband, my best friend, my mom and a number of other friends I can tell anything and everything to when I need someone to talk to. I am very lucky!!!

my mom. shes the bestest there ever was! she knows everything about me and sometimes if i need to talk to her she will call me just to see whats going on.

My first is my best friend- My husband. I think I turn to people based on what it is I'm needing advice on, or if I just want to vent. Some friends are very wise and I'd rather try to see what their insight is (and have that in mind as we are talking) ; others are great to meet up for a drink and kvetch with and just get it off my chest or laugh at it.

I do have a friend at work I can talk to but when it comes to really personal stuff, I don't have anyone.

It 100% depends on the situation. I tell my husband most things...and he normally keeps me on track.

I talk to both of my sisters and my mom almost daily.

I also have a great relationship with my dad.

I have a great coworker that has personally been through a lot that is going on in my life right now, and I am SO thankful for her.

I also have a group of ladies from this site that I connect with off of this site and they are complete God-sends to me. I bring the things I can't bring anywhere else to them.

Love this question! I have what I refer to as my "board of directors", 2 of them are long time friends and then I usually pick someone else to ask that I might know casually who has expertise in the subject I have the question about.