Ah, well my husband drives 2 hours one way, 5 days a week. I also work full-time and our three kids are very active.
Monday/Tuesday/Thursday he picks our daughter up from dance, which means he may have to wait 30-45 minutes for her to be done, but it saves me from running back out. When I'm at home, I have dinner going (or made and served when he gets home), I normally clean up after dinner, I work with the kids to do the rest of the cleaning/laundry. So sometimes he has to come home and help, and other times he doesn't.
Honestly, he doesn't expect anything when he gets home. We both work as a team and have different craziness going on outside of work hours. That's very kind of you though to want to do something for him.
Added: He also takes college classes (starts back next week) and coaches our sons baseball team. He also umpires part-time during the softball season. So I guess we just both stay really busy.