My Daughter Gets Too Frustrated

Sometimes I think girls are getting hormonal earlier and earlier these days. Don't know if it's from the hormones in milk and meat or what. At any rate, if you are looking for a good book that deals with girls and all the changes their body is going through,including mood swings, my girls, now 15 and 12, emjoyed the Care and Keeping of You-I've seen it at Barnes and Noble. It's in cartoon format and I got it for my girls when they were 9 or 10.

This probably isn't exactly what you're looking for but it might be a help.

I have a daughter that keeps all her emotions bottled up at school, the perfect student, and comes home with what I call the big build up. She is brutal to her siblings and we are constantly trying to work on more construcktive ways for her to handle her emotions. I have a girls scout troop that meets after school and my coleader and I talk about this all the time. These girls get to the meeting and even the quiet little ones are bursting with gabbiness. I wonder if your daughter might have some of this going on as well. Good Luck and perhaps with the other advice you can piece together some different approaches.
LaurieK

My daughter does this sometimes too. She gets easily frustrated if something seems too difficult and will either just throw her hands up and give up or get all aggrivated and start having an attitude. Her dad and I both have tried to explain to her that she is fully capable of doing whatever she sets her mind to. We also have taken away tv in her room and she has gotten an earlier bed time. Our daughter is 12 and I was thinking it was just that pre-pubescent hormone shift thing. But maybe not. I also get the " everything is my fault" or " i can't do anything right" often. I just wanted to let you know i can sympathize with your situation. I dont' know the solution it ( even though i really wish i did). Maybe someone else will respond with some technique that has been effective for them.

Oh boy, do we have alot in common!
When there is more in a family some children become distant if they are not reconized, or being in the middle of attention.
I to have a 10 year old daughter,with her other brothers and sisters.
Try sitting 1 on 1 with her. Try to listen with out buttin in. Its hard...I know.
I found out a year ago that my daughter has mid-depression.
Parents that are divoced, makes things worse,because the children often feel that all problems is thier fault.
You have to sit her down and explain to her that it is never her fault(which u have done), but also explain that she must not take all the troubles in her hand, and that it is ur duty as her mother to worry. She is young and should enjoy her life then to worry, and take all responsibility.
I hope i help some...I would love to chat more if u like.

My advice would be to read The 5 Love Languages of Children & Siblings Without Rivalry. I'd also get your kids on the Feingold diet. It's surprising how many emotional and behavioral challenges are aggravated by diet. You can learn more at www.feingold.org. HTH! :-)
Kim