Need Help with Thank-you's...

I think if you think it's something they would like to know you're spending it on, then include it. But if you're spending it on groceries or lingerie, maybe not so much. In that case, I would go the generous gift route.

I think SH did a great job, you should put exactly what she wrote! - I will have to remember to hit her up next time I have to write Thank You cards. I always feel awkward filling them out.....LOL

"Thank you so much for helping us celebrate our wedding. We appreciate your joining us in the event of our lives!
Your monetary gift (or say what gift item they gave you) was very generous and it will be well used to help us with our home, as a couple.
Words cannot express, how thankful we are for your wonderful thoughts and card. It means a lot to us as we embark on our journey as a Husband and Wife."

Or:

"Our wedding was as fabulous as we had hoped. It was because of you, and for helping us celebrate, that we will remember it always. It was indeed very special, and we deeply appreciate your generous monetary gift & card for us, as a newly married Husband and Wife.
We will put it to good use for our home, and will remember always, of your thoughtfulness for us.
We thank you very much, for being with us for the event of our life."

I always like to and do, write more than just 3 lines for a thank you card.
When written longer than the obligatory 3-liner, it is more meaningful and lets the gift-giver know, that you spent time and thoughts, on writing THEIR thank-you card.

"Thank you very much for the very generous gift of money. We will make good use of it and are very appreciative. Thanks for sharing our day!"

"Thank you very much for the generous gift. We will be using it when we XYZ in the fall...."

"Thank you very much for the generous gift of money. It is much appreciated. We appreciate even more that you shared this special day with us."

"Thank you so much for the generous wedding gift. As you may know, we have been saving for an XYZ so your gift will go to very good use."

Yes--I think it's always polite to mention what the money will be used for...and never mention the specific amount! I also wouldn't word it "Thanks so much for the 'cash" or 'the check'"!

Oh--good point--if they additionally gave you another physical item--mention THAT specifically!

HOW ABOUT
Thank you for attending our wedding Currently we are rolling in the piles of money we have recieved and making sweet LOVE on them. After the fun runs out in that we'll be putting it towards a more conventional item to roll in the hay with such as a bed. Thank for coming! (I was going to be horrible and mispell coming too...but i left that out=) )

Maybe you should use the $$ to pay an exterminator and get rid of the critters in your basement instead! Ha! I crack myself up! ;)

You would say, "Thank you for your generous gift. We plan to buy new furniture, and your gift will help us do that. We will think of you whenever we use our new end tables." or whatever. I would probably not say that you plan to buy a new mattress, just because, you know... people's minds will go straight to the gutter! LOL In terms of the adjective you use before "gift," I would say anything under $50 is "kind" or "thoughtful," $51-$100 is "generous," and anything above that is labeled "extremely generous." ;) And then, of course, go on to thank them for spending your special day with you, how much you appreciated celebrating with them, etc.

Our standard wedding thank you went something like...

"Thank you very much for the generous wedding gift. We are looking forward to selecting something special for our home. More importantly, thank you for sharing our wedding day with us!"

Mine said something like (with variations to keep it real):

It means so much to us that you came to share in our wedding day with us. We want to thank you so much for being there, and for the generous gift.

With Love and Thanks,
Mr. & Mrs. Smith

;)

@Jen F. LMAO!!! Fantastic!! That would definitely work for some friends... now Aunt Fussipants, not so much... LOL

I don't think you need to tell them how you are spending their monetary gift.
Simply express heartfelt and warm thanks. Tell them how much you appreciate their generosity. Include maybe a little anecdote about the wedding, or photo as a memento.

When I give a gift of cash I really don't care what the recipient does with it - I gave as a gift, and just like a place setting, it is theirs to do what they want with it.

Congratulations again.

God Bless

I think "Thanks for the Benjamin" sounds hilarious.

But I normally do tell people what I plan to spend the money on. Granted, I told my friend when I gave her money "Buy something Texas-y for your new home. Make sure it's not made in China." And her thank you card said "Putting the money in savings for a future honeymoon." And it's been one year now and they've still not gone on a honeymoon. But really, in the end- I don't care what she spends the money on. It's a gift. I should've gotten her a gift card if I wanted her to get something specific.

I like to tell people something broad like "new items for our kitchen" or "a new bedroom set." I would not say "a new mattress" as yes, people might put their head in the gutter or say "oh la la!" or think you're insinuating that y'all have 'worn out' your old one (hint hint nudge nudge). HA.

We picked one thing, in our case it is a camera, and are thanking anyone for cash using that. So like Dear Aunt Fruitcake, Thank your for your generous gift. As you know we are going to Italy and will think of you every time we use our new camera...blah blah blah. I hate writing thank you notes. No one has to know the camera didn't eat up all the cash. :p

If you mention the mattress you will have to mention the sheets, of course sleeping like a ninja! :p Yes people would love to hear about the mattress. That is what is cool about giving cash at weddings the bride and groom get to buy something they may not have been able to otherwise.

Okay so I just noticed how many posts say don't mention something. See everytime I see nothing mentioned I think oh good, we paid the water bill.

Oh yeah, don't mention the amount, the will remember how much they gave. :p

Id say, Thank you so much for the check. It was so generous of you and we will spend it wisely. Thanks again,
You dont need to mention the ammount, or what you will buy. They just want that thankyou note!

We got all cash for our wedding. If it truly was generous I would say "Thanks for your generous cash gift" and then maybe say what you might spend it on. If it was an embarassing $5 (yes, that happened to us!) I said something like "thanks for the cash gift" and then say something nice about them at the wedding or if they weren't there, something nice about the wedding in general. Congrats and good luck! P.S. Put a wedding pic in your profile! :o)

I think people like to hear what your putting the money for but its not required.

I would maybe say something like this:

Thank you for the generous gift of money, we will be using it towards household items we need for the house. - Then I would thank them for attending the wedding.

It is my opinion that the line "thank you so much for your generous gift" is sufficient. I don't think they need to know what you are going to use it for. Unless you want to tell them it really isn't any of their business. Most people just want to be acknowledged for their gift and that is enough to know it was appreciated.

When I got married, 12 years ago, I got it into my head that it was tacky to outwardly thank someone for money. So I was big into the "thanks for the generous gift." Guess what? Turns out some of our wedding guests were confused--especially the ones who gave a small gift AND money. In retrospect, I wish I had been more specific. It would be nice to say what you're putting it towards. How about this?
Dear Aunt Muffington,
It was so wonderful to see you at the wedding! We loved that you traveled all the way from Kansas. And thank you so very much for the hundred dollars; it was such a generous gift and will help us buy a beautiful fondue set. We are looking forward to visiting you soon, and thank you again!
With love,
R. and Rob

We recd money for our wedding and I said things like, WOW.. thank you so much for your generosity. I would also add, it was lovely to see you at the wedding..
Additionally, I've also written ," Not only are you more than generous but your presence at our wedding made it even more special.."

basically, speak from the heart and you can't go wrong.. also, I don't think you nec need to say what it's going for.. that is your biz..

good luck and congrats

I was always told using the word "money" is tacky! So I always say "thank you so much for your generous gift." Then I usually go on to say what we will be using it on or say we are saving it for something special. Then, thanks for spending the day with us, etc., etc.

mention what you will do with the money. It doesn't have to be 100% accurate. You are not waking up one day and saying to yourself 'hey self, that $100 from Aunt Sue will take care of the new shoes I need" say 'it will make our lives so much easier' - 'it will help with the new car we need' - 'or the house we want to buy'