Parenting Quotes

I get how it is. I have a drama family too. You probably don't want to delete them because "boo-hoo, she deleted me" to all the family would make you look like the bad guy. (that's how it is in my family anyway...) This is one of my favorites...

"A hundred years from now... it will not matter what my bank account was, the sort of house I lived in, or the kind of car I drove... but the world may be different because I was important in the life of a child"

Christina - life is waaayy too short to deal with immature people. Take them off of your news feed and forget about them for a while.

Go ahead and post those pics of your little darling but do it only with joy and not alternative motives - otherwise you risk using your child as a weapon which is very unfair.

Quit looking at what they say on Facebook.
Simple.

Take care and best wishes.

Delete them...life is too short to deal with that kind of immature drama, I don't care if they are family or not. What kind of problems could it cause to Not have them on your Facebook page, I would not hesitate to drop family as a "facebook friend" if they were being hateful or critical to me on Facebook.
Most likely they are jealous, sounds like they feel like they lost their party buddy...life goes on, people grow up, change...have KIDS and move on...you need to be more focused on how wonderful being a mom is and less focused on these women who you should not have time for based on their attitudes.

I like this quote: "My life is my argument." - Albert Schweitzer

But really, just delete them as FB friends already. Honestly, they are not worth it. You are worried about that "causing more problems" but they don't seem to be too concerned about the problems they are causing for you with the things they say and write. If they ask why you deleted them, tell them straight up - you don't appreciate the negative commentary and you don't need that in your life anymore.

Family or not, it should not matter - they sound like narcisstic (sp?) toxic jackasses and I would not even acknowledge them or stoop to their level. You have better things to do. You have a baby to prepare for. You are about to become a mother and be responsible for the raising and welfare of another human being. If anything, should you decide to post something, you can always post what one of my refrigerator magnets says:

"Children are a blessing - you will never know when you will need blood or a spare kidney."

Why are you reading what they write? I think you have more important things to do. It's too bad they behave this way, but you don't need to be a party to it, even if they are relatives. Un-friend them! People un-friend (or don't include as friends in the first place) relatives all the time. If anybody asks about it, say you're cutting down on FB time and FB people (and then you need to do it, of course). You don't need to explain any further than that.

not really about parenthood but may be fitting...

I do my thing, and you do your thing.
I am not in this world to live up to your expectations, and you are not in this world to live up to mine.
You are you, and I am I, and if by chance we find each other, it's beautiful.

(Frederick E. Per)

"Children are a Gift from God" or "Children are a gift." That's all I can think of at the moment..LOL They sound immature and it's too bad that their jealous of you instead of rejoicing with you!! You can "hide" them on facebook so you don't see their posts unless you go to their profile page. You can also "unhide" them anytime and they won't even know that you did it. =) Good luck and congratulations!!

Why keep playing their narcistic games?

It won't stop... unless one stops playing and reacting to them.
They are chronic toxic drama passive-aggressive immature childish trouble-makers.

Once you become a Mom.... they will be so antiquated and obsolete.

Sure, they are 'family'... but they don't act like it.
Friend act better than they do.

good luck,
Susan

Babies are not pawns in anyone's game. I would delete them from my friend list and don't take their calls. You are a Mom now. This requires you to be the "bigger person" in most instances. Yes, it sucks a lot of the time but totally neccesary to build a good human being. Imagine if everyone in the world exacted revenge for each slight they had received. It would be a really poopy place. You are the example for your child. Break the cycle and move on. Congrats on your little one. cb

The best revenge is living well.

Yes, all three of you have some maturing to do and since you are or will be a mother to a precious baby you have to let it go. Focus your energy on your husband/fiance and baby because they are now the most important people in your life.

If you're wanting a quote to deal with your cousins, check out Romans 12:20.
If you want something to live by, read Philippians 4:13 and 2Timothy 1:7.

Good Luck!

Take them off your facebook account. Just because they are family doesn't mean you have to put up with Toxic attitude. I don't know how old you are but "Facebook Friends are really not your Friends"

Good luck,
DH

First off, you can block them from seeing any of your pics and vids on FB by customizing the "who can see this" tab when you post the item. Just type their names in when it asks you "all friends except." This way, you do not have to start something by deleting them as friends.

Next, I really would just ignore them. They are doing it to get a reaction from you and you are playing right into their hands. You can put general statements up that you have the best kid in the world, or you just LOVE being a mom, stuff like that. THere are lots of generic chain posts about being a mom or loving your son or daughter. You can also delete any post they put on your wall or your pics and vids.

Good Luck!

I have a hard time with my brother's girlfriend for similar reasons, but I keep her as a friend on FB b/c otherwise I wouldnt get to see pictures of their baby. I just try to ignore her ignorant, selfish comments. It's hard, but once you decide to ignore their jerky comments, you will feel better.

BTW, anyone who encourages you to abort your baby is NOT your friend.

I just have to add my 2 cents. So what if they are family, delete them! Life is too short to force yourself to associate with people that you do not like, regardless of whether they are related to you or not. It's one thing to be cordial at family gatherings and holidays and another to be friends and contacting them everyday. If they are not your friends, delete them!

I also agree with the other advice, ignore them and live well that's the best revenge. Who cares what they think they are not you! Hmm that Sara Bareilles song comes to mind King of Anything, great song. Maybe you should post the video on your Facebook saying how much you love this song! lol

Hang in there!

Grow up. Retaliation is so middle school. Maybe they're posting that they're happy being free because they are. Not everything they post is about you because their world does not revolve around you and they probably don't spend as much time thinking about you, which seems to me, is what might be bothering you. You have other things to think about than your equally immature friends. You need to focus on this baby. Your life is changing forever. It's not about you any more. It's about this innocent child that needs two mature parents to raise it. Instead of looking for lyrics and positive parenting quotes to post as retaliation, use those quotes and time to teach yourself. Find some parenting books in the library, start saving LOTS of money (get on a budget because kids are VERY expensive) and forget your friends because they are part of your past. Look the future, make new friends and focus on the baby.

Here are some great quotes:

Being a full-time mother is one of the highest salaried jobs in my field, since the payment is pure love. ~Mildred B. Vermont

If the whole world were put into one scale, and my mother in the other, the whole world would kick the beam. ~Lord Langdale (Henry Bickersteth)

The tie which links mother and child is of such pure and immaculate strength as to be never violated. ~Washington Irving

The hand that rocks the cradle
Is the hand that rules the world.
~ W. R. Wallace

“When you are a mother, you are never really alone in your thoughts. A mother always has to think twice, once for herself and once for her child.”
~Sophia Loren

“A mother's love is patient and forgiving when all others are forsaking, it never fails or falters, even though the heart is breaking”
~Helen Rice

“No gift to your mother can ever equal her gift to you - life." ~Unknown

I had something similar happen with a cousin of my husband. I unfriended her for a while because I wasn't interested in the drama. She recently apologized and asked me to put her back on my FB. I did but really don't care if she post or responds negatively to any of my posts. I love to post how happy I am and wonderful husband and kids. I don't do it to be hateful to her and I don't think she takes it that way. A lot of the negativity has stopped as well. Family or not you don't need the drama. If you unfriend them or block them they are going to either realize that you've grown up and will quit bc it doesn't bother you or they'll do their own thing and yall will become distant relatives. Either way you shouldn't post anything to get a rise out of them because all that does is create what you don't want.

Your best option is to unfriend them. They won't be able to tell for a while, you'll just stop appearing on their feeds, so it could be a couple of weeks before they notice. Once they do, just tell them that you're trimming your friendslist. Once you have your baby, you'll be too busy to deal with what they think about things, and the concept of being 'free' will change to one that is 'blessed'.

My favorite quote: 'Everything will be okay in the end. If it's not okay, it's not the end.'

The answer is so simple, "Un-friend" them and move on. Be the bigger person in this clearly dysfunctional relationship. Believe me, as a mother you don't need the extra drama or stress in your life!

I personally would just let it go. You are going to do what they want you to in order to keep this nonsense going. Ignore them and get on with your life and enjoy being a mother. They will soon get tired of the whole thing and let it go. I would erase them from my facebook account. That way their snide remarks won't be there for you to read. Afterall you don't have any contact with them other than facebook. Good luck with motherhood and congratulations on not taking their advice about abortion.

L.

It is time to grow up and stop the stupid stuff.

They are drama queens. They probably WANT retaliation from you. Don't give them the satisfaction. As CherryJam said, they are probably just jealous. Live your own life, post what you would have posted even if they hadn't been so judgmental. The best revenge is showing them that they are not affecting you one bit.

Girl, they are just jellous! Can you not read between the line?
Best responce is no responce :)

Why ?How can this be good for you to stoop to their level?Is it not enough to know that they are unhappy with their own life?I don't think it is such a good idea for you do that.You know that you are a happy person and your life have been so positive but if it's so miserable because your own blood willing to go and make such a crazy FB page about you then stop reading it.Delete them out cuz for you to tell us that you don't want to do such things to a family members is absurd.They went and say things and being mean intentionally to you and you still think a saint of them but then you are planing some evil plot to get back at them just make no sense.Let them go and make peace with your self on this.I guarantee you that once you did it is not going to make you feel better and on top of that it will be an on going back and forth battle.If it bugs you that much then tell them face to face of how you feel.Going on internet to advertise your dirty laundry is very immature so be a better person and give your child a better positive start to life.Sorry Hon,I know that this is not what you ask of us but most of us on here thinks that you are wasting your energy on stupid people who are meant to be your family.Just let them be cuz Karma goes around and comes around.Best wish for the out come.

I agree with what many others have said and just de friend them but, here is my favorite quote
"The noblest calling in the world is motherhood. True motherhood is the most beautiful of all arts, the greatest of all professions. She who can paint a masterpiece, or who can write a book that will influence millions, deserve the plaudits and admiration of mankind; but she who rears successfully a family of healthy beautiful sons and daughters whose immortal souls will exert influence throughout the ages long after paintings shall have faded, and books and statues shall have decayed or been destroyed deserves the highest honor that man can give, and the choicest blessings of God." David O Mcay"