Searching for the Perfect Words....

Updated on July 04, 2008
A.P. asks from Round Rock, TX
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I have two great friends getting married in a couple of weeks. I'm trying to think of the perfect words of wisdom to wish them well. I always seem to struggle finding the right words. Any help would be great! TIA

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H.L.

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I always find myself telling my married friends to remember that you are each on an individual journey that doesn't disappear just because you get married. This is after they've tried to change each other and force certain things to fit. Finding and living your indvidual purposes in this life will give you more clarity for your marital purpose, to set and achieve marital goals. Marriage isn't about falling in love, so don't take it personally when they don't keep stars in their eyes for you.

People get married for the wrong reasons and call it "sacred" and "of God" just because they had a wedding and said, "I do." No. It's sacred if you make it sacred, if you keep it connected to God (if it was ever connected to God). Also (here's where I get into trouble), God is not obligated to clean up your mess. You marry the wrong person or for the wrong reasons, you're not on the right path for your journey. If you choose to continue in that way, then don't expect it to be smooth, and don't expect God to bail you out.

The commitment of marriage is the biggest one that you can make, but people don't understand what they are committing to. It has nothing to do with diamonds and roses. When I got married, I committed to being/providing a safe and peaceful place for my husband to continue to develop along his journey of this life. I committed to giving him first consideration in all things and maintaining a high level of intimacy so we can stay connected on a spiritual level and feel good about supporting each other. I committed to not sharing that same level of intimacy with anyone else (male or female) so as not to compromise or minimize my agreement with my husband. I committed to pushing him in love--even when it hurts--to achieve his goals and be the person he is meant to be. I meet him wherever he is and help him to grow. He does all these same things for me. I experience the most growth when I am authentic and true to myself. My husband's eyes are better at finding truth in me than a mirror. His soul knows mine, and I cannot lie to him. That's what makes my marriage sacred, and that's why no other person can come between us. Who gets the most benefit from that kind of deal? Me. I benefit when I am held accountable and forced to learn and teach. People who are dishonest and unauthentic in their relationships think that they're getting over, but they're only cheating themselves...and wasting time.

Also, marriage is a covenant, not a contract. We were married when we went before God and submitted our relationship. That was when we made covenant. The contract (marriage license) is just for the legal system to keep tabs on us.

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K.M.

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Christianbooks.com has some wonderful books for couples getting married, newlyweds, and even long married couples. Maybe you can get them a book. Just search under books, there never seem to be enough words to give someone who is getting married. Maybe a book would help better.

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C.W.

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1 Corinthians 13
Love
4Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. 5It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. 6Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. 7It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.

8Love never fails. Just a thought, have it written on some pretty paper and frame it and they will have a constant reminder of the "perfect words" you gave them.

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R.M.

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you know... you've been married for 12 yrs, I am going into my 17th year - marrage to me is one of the most wonderful endeverous i have taken, It is also hard work, and requires both to listen well- going on spouse retreats without the kids is also a great thing for the future(after they've been married a while) keep that date night! also even when your mad at each other always communicate- My husband and I - this may sound strange, but before we married we knew this was it- so argueing will always happen but for us divorce is not an option- (My parents have both been married several times-) its comforting to me to know yes i can fight with him and he is still sticking! hope that helps faith is huge for us as well.
(we have a 14yr old high functioning autistic child(aspergers),12yrs old very sensitive boy, 8yr old princess,6yr old gift from God- and the most stuborn- its not coincident we named him Peter!

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