Seeking Advice from Anyone. . . What U Think

Hi M... I know it's hard to hear this but you gotta do what you have to do and get out of there. Its nice she baby sits for you to get out but do you really want to put up with your Ex husband all in your business? I wouldnt but we are talking about you here, Now this is what I think you should do. You outta try staying with a relative... Secondly do you work? and does he pay for your child to be in day care? Because hunny, You didnt make this baby alone and maybe he is providing but if he felt the need to move out and move on then sooooooooooooo should U... This will be less stress for you..... and lastly have you thought of working from home I have several options you can email me for details..... hope all works out well for you soon... tight hugggssssssssss, Dee

hello M., let me tell you that you should stay at your mother-in-law's house and take advantage of the situation for now until you have earned enough money and put your husband on child support! that way you know that monthly you will have your good check on your hands, than after you have good money accumulated from child support and plus you will not be paying all the rent and other expenses because your living at your mother in law and you husband still helps you, you 'll be able to save alot and then kick the curv.

WOW...this is a hard situation. Is there any chance you will get back with your husband? I think you should talk with your MIL and see how she feels about your staying on with her. That will help you know what to do. If you are uncomfortable and want out...then look into apt. (maybe someone at work can help you find something...let pplk know you are looking to move...they maight know of a good place to live) Look at your $$$ and see if you can make it with what you make. I am sure she will still watch your daughter. Look into child support. GOOD LUCK. Tell us what happened!

hi M. well your situation is not the end of the world...lol but what i think you should do is start filling out applications for low or mid income housing go to this website www.nyc.gov/hpd if you have trouble getting to the site then just go to search and type in HPD it should come up that way too. there is nothing better than your own place and even though your mother in law helps when you are there i think she should also help if your no longer living there i know its no easy cause i myself am a fulltime working mother of three girls and i also live with my mother in law and we are not getting alone lately and also looking for an apartment but i dont make that much money so then now and then i go to the website and see what low income building are taking applications well i hope i help alittle and i also hope you so checkout the website good luck :)

I think that you should move out on your own. If his mother is willing to watch her when you want to hang out then she might be okay with watching her and you pay her the money that you pay the baby sitter. It will help with her financial situation and help you with your money situation.
Also I think that you should get child support from the husband if he is not giving anything else. Most child support can be handled outside of court but if you want to take it there then make sure that you guys have settled on an amount before you get to court. Plus, and this is most important, PUT IT IN WRITTING. the courst only give the mininum amount to pay and he may change his mind. You don't want to be caught out there like that.

Also talk to your mother in law and let her know how you are feeling. She must know that its a little weird living in the house of your husbands mother and the hasband is not there. Maybe she will see what a difficult time you are having and not be so pushy. Plus it will help you to know if you really should move out...if she don't want you their then you should move...so talk it out.
I live with my mother for right now and know how bossy mothers can be. But when I talked to her it became so much better.
Hope this helped.