Should I Ask Him or Leave It Alone?

Don't look a gift horse in the mouth.

You are kidding, right?

Girl, you don't know how good you got it. I would give anything for that kind of attention.

BTW, I'll trade you your peanut butter cups for some snickers anyday ;)

S.,

Its probably not a good idea that your eating all these candy bars through out the day. Maybe tell your hubby its a sweet gesture, but candy bars are not good for you (especially being a mom and needing energy thats not from sugar and fat, but rather fruits, veggies, and healthy grains) Then let him know that once in a while would be great and that you do have a favorite one...

Don't say anything....A lot of us would love to have a husband who even starts to think of us.

S.... Men DO NOT hear hints... You have to flat out say "I would prefer it if you bought snickers" or "wow, thanks for the chocolate but I really only like snickers"... Or, suck it up and buy them for yourself... Either way, it seems like a nice gesture.

Men are all different in their tastes but it seems to me they are all pretty similiar in behavior. I think that a good back rub can be romantic. Make him a special "candlelight" dinner after the kids are asleep. Say or do things that you sense make him happy. I'm sure you will get plenty of ideas from other women as well.

wow... :-) Some people actually said not to say anything...
lol
Ever heard of Mark Gungor? He's awesomely funny and talks about relationships. If you ever have a chance get ahold of a "Laugh your way to a better marriage " and watch it WITH hubby...

If its really bothering you then you gotta say something... If not, then just let it go.

Men do not get subtle hints. Do not come right out and say it, it may put him on the defensive... But one night while at the gas station pick out a snickers and look him in the eye... Say This is my favoritest kind of ALL and smile... Then after he pays for it give him a kiss, hold up the candy bar so he can see it and say "thankyou for buying me my FAVORITEST kind of candy bar".
Try that a few times and see if you get more snickers.

My hubby is an acts of service guy... So he will show me he loves me by doing stuff like picking up after the kids, he puts the food away after dinner, he cleans the cat litter box, he helps around the house... AND I THANK HIM FOR IT. :-)

I am a touch person... Hubbys really not... But he does like the words of affirmation... So I leave him cards and notes in his car or lunch box so he can find them on the way to or at work. :-)

My grandpa always said that you still have to court your spouse thru out your WHOLE marriage... AND thank them for the things they don't HAVE to do... Now that I have been married going on 9 years I agree... Grandma always said that you have to pick your battles wisely. Complaining about ONE thing can easily make the easily wounded male ege shrivel up and stop wanting to court you... And we all know how much we like the courting. :-) She said to find NICE ways to make your point and always let the hubby feel like he's the big boss and that every little thing he does is a BIG thing. :-) Build em up...

Sit down and write out a list of 30 things hubby does that you apreaciate, love, is helpful to you... Then write a thankyou note for each one. Scatter them around and let him find them... Slip one in the mail one day... in his car, etc... One a day or a week.... Just a simple Thank you for sharing the covers with me at night. I love laying next to you and I love you.

You can visibly see their chest puff out in pride...

(I really do suggest watching Mark gungors dvds)

have fun... Romance doesn't have to be extravagent... Just simple acts of thoughtfulness...

That's alot of candy bars! But... you can tell him that if you ever happened to find a snickers... he may be duly rewarded that evening (in the bedroom) :-) That will give him a pretty strong hint
What a sweet husband.

You could buy them and hide them for him to find while he's hiding candy for you.
A. H

personally, I would leave it alone. I would be thankful that he is even thinking of you like that, its so sweet. If you do want to say something then maybe one day if you are at the store together grab a snickers and while you are eating it just say "Oh this is good, its been so long since I had one, I forgot how good they were, i think this is my favorite candy bar."
If I want to do something special for my hubby I send him a note in his lunch, or send him an email that tells him how I think he is the best and so handsome and how much I love him. You can always do something special in the bedroom as well.

"I found the Reese's and Snickers. I just KNOW there's gotta be a (insert your favorite) somewhere because you know it's my favorite! It's gotta be around SOMEplace!!!!"

Maybe it's his favorite too and that might be too much temptation.

S.,

You shouldn't say anything, after all its a gift. Gifts are meant to express that someone is thinking of you. You may want to turn the tables though and leave a Snickers bar somewhere for him as a suprise!

S.: yeah thats totally cool, maybe you can ask him what his favorite candy bar is, and he can tell you , and then you can say i love them all, ahhaha but i think i like this better, hmm now that i write it , it dont seem right, ahahahh but it would be cool to maybe put your favorite candy bar on his pillow and say lets share this together, and then share each other, haahah and you could say hey this candy bar taste really good, i think i like this better than kit kat, ahaah or whatever, ahahah some of the romantic things ive done, was send him flowers at his work, also i planned a picnic at a place where we used to go while dating, also, ive done those nice photos of my self, at a professional place and ordered pictures, and then gave him my picture in like a new wallet, lots of things, or just go out to movies, or whatever together, it so wonderful you have a happy marriage, keep working on your marriage, and you will continue to be happy, most people think you need to give 50/50 in a marriage, that is soo wrong, each person needs to give 100/100 and it seems like you have found a way to do so, keep up the good work, and you too can be married for the 27 years i have, enjoy life and have a great day , D. s

I would just gush on him about how much you enjoy this special surprise and then ask if he'd mind putting some snickers in as well since you REALLY love those. Then ask him what type of thing he'd like to have done. Sometimes it is more fun to totally surprise someone, but lets face it, if you don't know where to start you just have to ask for some help. Soon you'll learn what he likes and then you can do more surprises for him. Brag and brag on him and don't be critical and I'm sure he'll start getting the foods you'd really like instead.

Hi S. ~ I think that is so sweet of your hubby...mine does stuff similar to that as well and I LOVE it! I think whether or not you should say something to him will depend on how you think he will take it. If he is the super sensitive type I would just be thankful for what he does do and then grab yourself your favorite one when your out and about. If you think he's just clueless and the subtle stuff is going over his head, maybe say...ya know I so appreciate what it is that you are doing, it totally makes my day and lets me know that your thinking of me...I was wondering if you could throw a snickers in every now and then because I haven't had one in a while, or because it is one of my favorites...something like that. And then be sure to wrap up saying how much you appreciate or adore his thoughfulness. I think that is called the "sandwhich" approach. You start out with a compliment, add your request, then wrap up with a thank you or another compliment. I hope that helps. I don't know if your familar with the Five Love Languages book, but my husband and I have read that what I found out is that his love language is physical touch and words of affrimation. So for physical touch I try to cuddle with him as much as possible, hold his hand in the car, rub his back etc. For words I leave little lipstick notes on the bathroom mirror. I bought the cheapest tube of lipstick I could find and on the mornings I have to get up before him I will think of something silly romantic or cute. I also send him text messages throughout the day. The last one I sent him said...Just wanted you to know that I was thinking of you and I love you very much. Your the cherry on top of my turtle sundea. Your the finishing touch that makes life truly enjoyable...a bit mushy but he eats them up! Or for fun the other day I wrote on the mirror...an orginal masterpiece by M. ~ Your the apple of my eye, the fruit in my pie, it's true, my one and only you...LOL sounds so cheesy, but again he just loves it because that is what makes him feel loved.
Hope something in there was helpful. It is good to see couples thinking of each other and loving on one another...too often you see the exact opposite and it makes me so sad :( Well have a GREAT day and I pray you'll have a lots of witty and creative idea's to love on your hubby with!