Sign Off: 'Single Dad' or 'Single Mom'

Well, I would imagine that a question a single dad may be asking on a Mama website would normally go to his baby-mama, but if he's single & raising kids on his own, well, that's not an option. I just one second ago finished reading a post a woman wrote about her brother & she talked about how she'd love to help him more financially, but she's a single mom. Does that seem weird to you? It doesn't to me at all, it's explaining what part of the reason why she's asking the question in the first place.

IDK, are you normally the type of person who looks for things to be annoyed over because that's the category something like this falls into as far as I'm concerned.

I occasionally alter my sign offs (I more often do none at all), in order to indicate my bias or experience.

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R; ADHD-c mum to an ADHD-c kiddo

It's to let people know where I'm coming from

Similarly... if you're a single parent... that's pretty key in advice. HAVE YOUR WIFE HELP just isn't helpful in that situation. Ditto, when a situation isn't the norm, it's helpful. The vast majority of dads (and moms) are NOT single parents. So single parents usually speak up to show the difference (regardless of sex). Moms have a tendency to say 'working mom' when they're the sole support for the family, dads have a tendency to say 'at home dad' or single dad to make it clear they're the ones dealing with child issues the vast majority of the time.

So for myself, I'd assume it's just someone making clear their point of view or experience. Because that's what I do. (hence my bias)

It could be any number of things. It may have more to do with pride than ill intentions. This guy has probably been exalted for being a single dad. To prove my point....

Bring a man into a room of 30 women and introduce that man as a "single dad" - then step back for the swooning to begin.

It could be a million things, but I would guess he is simply explaining who he is and why he thinks the way he does. He is, in fact, "different" than us.

I think it is on the lines of mom/dad of X number of kids. Stay at home and the like. It is meant to effect your opinion of what they have to offer.

I never used any of this online. Before I remarried I pulled out the single mom when I wanted someone to feel sorry for me financially. My son is Autistic if I wanted mental pity. I can count on one hand the times I did it because it was complete nonsense that it effected me in the ways I was implying. Still effective if you want someone to feel bad for judging you.

Ahaha I love Riley's post. See!! psychology works, we do attribute why we do things to why we feel others do things. Her reasons wouldn't have occurred to me.

I don't actually notice when people do this, bad I know.

I would say for this site? its just indicating experience and where they are coming from with there opinions. NOW if it was something else or FB or whatever have ya, then its maybe a moniker for thought and maybe they are seeking a mate? Never know but it wouldnt bother me much to see that sign off here.

MOM OF 3 MARRIED AND NUTS

I don't think it is meant to be interpreted as "available". It's probably just to let people know that the person is raising the child without a partner.

I wouldn't think anything of it...they might just be saying that to clarify that they don't have a spouse or partner at home full-time to share in parenting duties and sometimes that makes a difference in what their issues may be and the types of answers that would be appropriate.

a guy who writes "single dad" can mean anything from, " i have the kids on the weekends" to, "wife left me and three kids for the plumber", , most people assume you are part of a couple when they see you with a child. sometimes you are sometimes and you're not, but since most people are too polite to ask for clarifacation, (coupled or not??), i guess never hurts to tell people up front,since asking would be rude.
K. h.

I think you are thinking too much into this. Sometimes a single mom or dad will think differently from a 2 parent house because they are doing the job of 2 people.

Single parents have different problems than parents who have a partner who is devoted to their children.
For one thing you are on 24/7 unless you have a shared custody arrangement.
If your ex- takes the kid(s) you have to cope with the tension with the other parent and the different rules your child(ren) lives with at the other house.

Probably want to let us know that they are single so that if your advice would be "get your husband to help!" or "get your wife to help!" than you would not advise that since there IS NOT other person. :)
L.

I get the impression they are looking for specific advice directed at their situation. So the last thing they want to hear is advice focused on both parents doing something when there isn't a second parent available to help. It certainly would help me offer better advise towards many questions had I known that specific situation otherwise there is an assumption that there is a spouse or partner there to help.

single parent doesnt slways mean your single, so i don't think its for anything other than what those below said..i'm a single parent, but I have a bf...so i don't think its to get hit on...I think its J. to let people know who you are or where you are coming from

I think you are. I think they are just letting you know "who" they are. Also your title says "single mom" but in your post, you only mention that you think "single dad" at the end of the post is fishy. Why?