Thank you both. I will definitely separate them and set firm boundaries.
I am less concerned about my son being influenced by my daughter than vice-versa. She has an aversion to sexual imagery or language, while he is a normal teenage boy in that regard.
We took our daughter to counseling when she first came to us, but she was uncomfortable with it and we wound up pulling her out. I'll try to get my husband to consider putting her back in--even if nothing intimate is happening, we can at least address her dependency upon her brother and the rest of the family.
I looked up the Nor implant, and the side effects sound dangerous. I'm not sure if that's the right solution in this case. She isn't wild and rebellious; if we set a limit for her, she will follow it. She's the most well-behaved of all our children.
Hmmm...
Judging from the answers below, I would say the question has been 'altered'.
I HATE it when people do that!
**sigh**
I'm not sure what to think on this one. Aside from it being your first question (usually people asking a first question are scrutinized for legitimacy), I wonder why you haven't separated them. Since one is under-age and the other is of age, if something intimate is going on, it sounds like you and the 18 year old could get in trouble.
I think you need to get them into counseling and have them share their feelings with a professional.
since the question has clearly been altered, i'll just say it LOOKS as if someone has been reading too much 'flowers in the attic.'
even the name 'C.'........
khairete
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How did I guess this is your first question?
I don't believe this. Sorry.
I call troll. Seriously!
But just on the off chance that this is real, I'll answer your question: NO, you are NOT wrong to be suspicious. You should be very suspicious. These two should not be sharing a bed together...why are you allowing this?!? You need to sit S down and explain that J is her brother. Even though they're not blood relatives, they are being raised as siblings. If she will not stop acting this way towards, J, you may have to ask her to move out. At 18, she's an adult and J is a minor. You need to protect him. You are legally obligated to do so.
Good luck with all that!
Yes.
Even siblings that have been raised together can be attracted and share sexual relations. Lesbian, gay, and straight.
When I was in college the statistics of incest were quite shocking. Over 60% of "reported" incest was between siblings and not a father or mother or adult relative. Siblings will turn to the nearest sexual partner when they discover sex.
Since you say she had the roughest time I am going to assume that includes molestation in some form. So here she is wanting to have sex, she's old enough and has probably fantasized about it with him, probably dad and you too. When incest occurs in the family it's very normal to the kids in that family so they expect it elsewhere. She will have to learn over time, hopefully before she has her own children, that incest hurts everyone in that home.
I'd keep them apart for sure. You don't want to be raising their kids and if they are sleeping in the same bed chances are they are having sex. If not penetration then oral and fondling. I would really get him into therapy so that he can age out and have a chance to know what is more acceptable and he won't be so influenced by her.
Get her on the pill, no don't, get her a Nor implant. That way she can't fake taking it.
Doubt this is real...
If this is legit I will say this - you need to find out what she was uncomfortable with re: counseling. She needs it. In fact, the whole family may need it. Not all counselors are the same and not all are good and not all are a good fit for every person. Some counselors can be very dismissive and rude and it sounds like you need someone who is gentle and has extensive experience with teens with her background. If you truly did adopt them as teens, then you should have had training for what to expect from a child from foster care and should be able to call those contacts for resources.
