My husband and I were having a discussion about the following question and were curious as to what other parents would say. Here is the question, "If you and your husband (significant other) were both going to die today at this moment in time would you want your children to die with you or would want them to live on?" Can't wait to see what you all have to say.
It would seem that everyone agrees. I am rethinking my repsonse and I am hoping that I can put more trust in my family and friends to take care of our three children if they should ever have to grow up without us. I was too quick to respond in saying that if we can't be there why not let us all go together. I know now that it is selfish but I just wanted them to be protected from the pain and sorrow of knowing that we will not be there for them. Thanks to everyone for your wonderful responses.
I think I have read too much news lately! This made me think of all those stories about family annihilators. Whenever I read those, I always think of how selfish they are to deny their children the chance to make their own place in the world. Definitely, let the children live on!
I say live on! Death happens to all of us. While it would be horrible for the kids in the short term, I really feel my kids have things they will definitely be contributing to the world over their lifetime. I would definitely not want to short them out of the experiences, nor would I want to short others out of knowing them and being impacted by them.
Of course, they should pick up the Torch,
and keep going, keep going!
Why do you even ASK!
Stuff happens, it's Life!
Where's life, there's aging, decay, death
as natural course of events
or sudden abruptness of the end,
but children pick up
and live on.
The worse situation, emotionally and otherwise
is when parents survive,
and children die...
then, this is a very sad life...
I would want them to live on!
Live and grow and have the best life possible.
To want them to go with me seems awfully selfish, even after I'm gone there is so much good they can do, so much happiness and joy they could experience. They will have family's of their own some day with children and grand children. Wouldn't take that away from them for anything.
Sure, it would be hard on them to have to move to a new family, but I have plenty of good family and friends that would take them and raise them as their own. The struggle may make them stronger, happier adults. I know they would be sad and miss me, but I would defiantly want them to live.
I'll watch them from the afterlife and welcome them with open arms when it's there turn to go.
Of course I would want them to live on. My children are not here solely for me, they are here to live their own lives and love, help and serve those they choose to. It is selfish to want them to die with you.
Live on! That is the beauty of children, in that they do live on after we're gone.
Majority rules. There are days when I wouldn't mind getting my wings... but what I do during the day is to prepare my children to live. To have fulfilling lives, and prepare for the joy of their own families.
And if I do die, I have left behind journals for each child where I talk about my love for them, my hopes for them, my dreams for them. Just in case they ever wondered what their mama thought about them. I'm sure that I would get to be their guardian angel (who else would be more careful than me?!), and that it would be okay.
Just don't let me live if they die.
When I imagine myself dying before my children, I imagine that I will be very anxious for their welfare and possibly throw a big fit that we are not together, because they are most important to me. However, I consider this life very valuable, so I want them to live on and make the most of it. I imagine myself as a spirit hanging around them a lot to know all about their lives. Maybe they would feel this was an invasion of privacy, I don't know. :) But I'm very attached.
I would definitely want them to live on. My one true hope in this life is that all of my children will live long, happy, healthy lives, and that they will be able to experience all the wonderful joys that life has to offer, including having their own children some day.
Kim
Mom of 5: 3 girls (10, 5, 4) 1 boy (9) and a surprise due in May.
I would want them to live on. While I have strong beliefs in what happens when we die, this life is an amazing experience and not to be missed. Just thinking about the experiences that lie ahead for my kids, I wouldn't want to miss a moment of it. But I would not want my kids to miss it just because I was not physically there to experience it with them. We have made arrangements so that if this were to happen our kids would be in the care of loving people that we trust.
I wouldn't even have to think about this one. I would definitely want them to live on. I got to live my life (even if it was shortened) and I would want them to do the same. I would be sad to not see them grow up, but they're such great kids, I know that they would do well.. My daughter is 4 years older than my son and she already protects him, so it's nice to know that they have each other. We have family that love our kids dearly and that's enough to make me feel good about leaving them behind.
Absolutely live on! We have so many family and friends who would love and raise our son, and pass our legacy and values on to him. And in that respect he's not just our child, he's a grandchild and cousin and nefew and friend, and future husband and father, and all those who know and love him, or will meet and love him in the future, deserve to have him in their lives, and he deserves the chance to live and learn and grow, and have his own family, and leave his impact on the earth!
live on, I would want them to go on and have a full and rewarding life. I know that we have done the necessary steps to provide for them as far as who would care for them, and that their future would be secure financially--I would not want to rob them of a full and rewarding life just because ours had come to an end.
I would want my children to live on. Honestly It would be selfish you and your husband have lived your lives they need to live their life as well. Even if it is without their parents.
J.
Simply put, I would want my children to live on. It would selfish to want them to die with me.
J.
Absolutely go on living. I would never, ever wish my childs life to end.
Hmm, seems kind of selfish to think that we are their entire world and that if we were gone it would be better for them to go too. I would want them to live on! Their lives would be sadder and harder, but still valuable! (Of course, I have several WONDERFUL close siblings who would raise them well if we were to go, so my optimism is supported by that.) Here's a harder one . . . If all your children died, would you rather live or die? Live, right? But it would sure be easier to die than deal with that horrible grief . . .
Live on! Whenever my husband has been on deployment I have often worried about what I would do if he were killed in action. Everything from emotionally to financially runs through my mind. I know people can die any where but having a loved one in a war zone always heightens this awareness of the fragility of life. At one time I thought there was no way I'd be able to carry one without him. And then I became a mother. I know I would have to be strong and carry on for my children and I would want them to do the same if both of us died at the same time. I believe our life spans on Earth are very short compared to those in the afterlife so it wouldn't be too long before our children would be reunited with us anyway!
