What Would You Do??

Really. let him go! He will be happy to have a friend to play with (they dont have to know each other to be happy to play with someone:) and to go to a hotel with grandma and granpa..what could be better!! And what a great way to let him be a big boy and do something special while so much focus will be on the girls. My in laws always take my kids with them to the hotel, and even when we all go to sea world this summer, the older kids will be staying in their hotel room. Send his swim suit for the pool, and enjoy the little break over this crazy weekend. It is hard to let the first one grow up and do those kind of things, but it really would be good for him! JMO ~A.~

I don't think it's weird....I actually think it's pretty nice of your inlaws to stay at a hotel instead of staying w/you....mine aren't so kind....lol

Unless there are reasons why you would not want him to spend alone time w/them, I think it would be so fun for your son to stay at the hotel and play w/the other little boy and his grandparents!

Just think...it will give you time to get stuff for the party ready! Don't stress...

I'd let him go. It's just one night and I'm sure he'll have a blast. Just think, it will also make things easier on you to get ready for the party! :)

Good Luck! Happy Birthday to the twins!

I guess I don't understand why it is weird that the grandparents want to spend some special time with their grandson. It may also be that she wants him to feel "singled out" from the twins, and elevated to a special position to get to go somewhere with them overnight. I would think it would also be easier on YOU to not have him around while you are preparing for the party. Personally I think it's MIL's way of helping you out and getting to spend special time with him. I don't personally think it's at all odd.

Well, I guess we must be wierd because when my in-laws come to visit from AL, my nine year old daughter has always gone to their hotel to stay with them (since she was at least the age of your son). I say chill out, let him go, it'll be fun for him to stay at the hotel with his grandparents and new friend.

I agree with most of the others here. I don't see this as weird, and I would let him go play with his grandparents and the other boy his age. I think it's a nice idea, and will get your son out of your hair while you prepare for the party as well.

I personally do not think that it is weird at all, I would let him go. He would have a great time playing with his cousin and grandparents. Sometimes grandparents like to spend some alone time with the kiddos rather than being around their parents. I do not think this is weird at all.

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My guess is that it depends on how comfortable you are with your in-laws ability to care for your 4 yr old. If they don't have a lot of experience caring for him, I would be very nervous about letting him go to a hotel with them. Call me overprotective, but I have 2 4yr olds and I would not send them off with anyone that did not have a lot of experience with them, like my nanny or my husband. As to the additional child in your home, learn to put your foot down now. People who do not have twins do not really understand how complicated it is to manage them - no matter how disciplined they are, you have to deal with one going one way while the other distracts you, etc. And at age one they are probably starting to have stranger anxiety and they may scream the entire time the boy is in your home, or the grandparents for that matter. You have a tough enough job without having other people enter your home and give you extra jobs. Always be very polite, but be firm that an extra child in your home the night before a twin party just will not work; perhaps some other time and perhaps when you may have had some notice and could be better prepared, but not today. Good luck and don't worry, the twins will not really know what's going on-this party is going to be more fun for you than for them.

If it were me I would let my child go and have fun. But if there is something perhaps you are not sharing about your in-laws that would make you uncomfortable then I would just tell them the truth when they wanted the little boy to stay at your house, that you will too busy getting ready for the b-day party. I hope all goes well.

What a weird situation! I wonder what's up with the other little boy - is there something about him that needs this type of attention?? Not knowing all the ins and outs of the situation, my first thought is NO WAY do you entertain the idea of a slumber party at your house! Ugh! Way too much to deal with! That said, maybe having your boy go there would be exciting for him & give you some time to focus on the party prep. My 4 year old would leap at the chance to spend time alone with his grandma & grandpa and would think it was the coolest thing to stay in a hotel. So while the whole situation is weird, maybe just thinking of it from your son's point of view - that could be a really neat, fun thing to do.

Good luck!!

I wouldn't let my son go spend the night with my MIL, but I have issues with her. I also would tell her that it's not the best time to have another 4 year old in the house that night. Why is your MIL trying to shove the 2 together?

Hi R.,

I say as long as you are completely comfortable with your in-laws caring for your son then it might help to have him spend the night with them while you are preparing for the party.
However, if there's something you're not comfortable with them about, then say no to both ideas.
It's definitely not a good idea to let the 4 yr old stay with you considering you don't know him or his parents at all.

Good luck and hope everything works out for you. : )