i'm not sure how to answer this, M.. it's very rambly and all over the place, and it's hard to follow what point you're trying to make, if any.
but i'll give 'er a whirl.
no, i don't think it has anything to do with the old '3 complaint rule.' the new mods and owners haven't mentioned anything about it.
it wasn't this S. being referenced, it was suzi. she's generally far nicer than i. :)
why should we care how someone asks or answers a question? i don't know where to go with that. if we didn't care about the question or answers, why would we be here? as you say, it's not our problem, it's the moderators' problem, but if they're pulling our responses and chastising us, they're making it our problem, no?
yes, there are rules for both askers and answerers. the rules have been and should be no expletives and no ad hominems. beyond that, respect is in the eye of the beholder.
yes, the manner in which the mods respond has changed. that's what prompted this, M..
you can view it as 'them against us' if you choose, but for many of us it was a justifiable and necessary pushback to being infantalized.
yes, more information about how the mods make decisions is very helpful and they've been good about that. and yes we can and do sometimes disagree and need to let them know that. yes, we're willing to respect the moderators and know they respect us. why is that a question?
i'm a little taken aback that without having seen the pulled answer you're taking it on yourself to chastise us. if you actually read the thread you'll see the answer, and if you read the responses your question 'why are so many upset? will be amply answered.
'can we agree that posts should be respectful of everyone?' makes the same assumptions of 'respect' that started the entire 'kerfuffle.' we don't all share a monochrome tone, M.. and sometimes a sharp retort is exactly called for. expletives and ad hominems, no.
i think we've done fine with minimal 'structure and guidance.' it would seem you join the mods in feeling as if we need lots of rules and guidelines in order to make us behave.
i do not agree.
your final sentence is both incorrect and dismissive. many who wanted more moderations vis a vis trolls and ads are now unhappy with tone being policed, yes. but dismissing the nuances of the situation with your overly simplistic framing of the issue is as paternalistic as the responses over the pulled post.
i'm disappointed.
khairete
S.