I have to agree with you there, J..
The only Mother's Day that got me into a tizzy was the first. Our son had been born about a month or so before the day, and after all of the waiting I had done to be a mother, all the losses I had endured before our little one came along-- being able to feel like I could "legitimately" celebrate Mother's Day was a milestone for me. My husband had a card for me, but had been so busy taking care of us that he couldn't think beyond that and his work. (Granted, he did take 3 weeks of paternity leave, which was huge for him because he was the only person in his department and was vital to the daily operations of the company, but I was far more hormonal at that point and couldn't perceive that he'd only *just* gone back to work when the holiday came along.)
This year, sweet man made us dinner reservations for this evening, and hired a sitter. He didn't surprise me because I have dietary concerns and knows I need to eat at a certain time each day. This has helped me to be able to eat this afternoon in preparation for a later meal. I love him for this lack of surprise on the day itself. I hadn't expected anything other than a card, and he really delighted me when he told me we were going out for dinner. "You've worked really hard, and it's important." he said.
All this to say, yes, planning is a good thing.
I have to wonder too-- I have seen so many posts on Mother's Day this year. I don't recall seeing this many previously. Is it such a huge deal? What's stood out to me were a couple posts which seemed inflexible on the idea of Mother's Day being celebrated on Any Other Day. This is odd to me; I celebrate Solstice or Christmas or Halloween with friends for whom it is more convenient to get together at other times than on that specific date. But we all have our own stuff.... I've got mine, but Mother's Day isn't one of them.