Yes, sometimes moms seem to be purposely critical, even mean. However, the majority of responses are reasonable. I choose to ignore the obviously hostile ones, read the seemingly judgmental ones for reasons that might have a kernal of truth, and assume that everyone has good intentions.
I'm feeling similar to Peg M. when she said that at times she feels strongly enough about a subject that she wonders about the readers' response. At the same time that I do not want to come across as judgmental, I believe strongly enough that I want to be sure that an alternative view is heard. I do not intend to upset anyone.
I would also like to add that I find that I often include information that I believe to be related to the original question but which is not specifically asked for because I do not know the circumstances surrounding the question. I also sometimes do this because I think that the information I give can help someone in a situation similar to the one asked about. I sometimes wonder if I've missed the point and if others are offended because they are not aware of the possible scope for that question. I have received at least one message telling me that they were angry because they thought my comment was meant for them and it wasn't about what they asked. This person thought I was rude.
I've also received a personal message and a message in a public message calling me out on my rudeness. I reread my comment and agreed. I hadn't intended to be rude. I was expressing my own frustration over an issue only slightly related to the question and I apologized.
The point I'm trying to make is the suggestion that we not be so quick to take offense. If the comment seems rude and is not helpful, ignore it. If it seems rude and not helpful and you feel offended consider the possibility that this person did not intend to offend you. If you find that you're expending energy on their response, put that energy to use and send a personal message to let the writer know how you feel. When you send the message, however, don't expect them to understand or accept your comment and most of all don't expect to change their mind. Just let them know that you did not appreciate their comment and then let it drop. Let go of your negative feelings, too. Don't let what someone else has said cause you to feel bad. You have the ability to decide how you feel. Why let someone else contribute to your day in a negative way?
I do believe that the majority of people on this site are caring and compassionate. Even those with negative, judgmental sounding answers are writing because they do care about the rest of us and/or the situation. I suggest that they do not know how to word their answers in a more accepting way. Not all of us have good social skills and some are especially handicapped when using the written word. Even if the comment is made in malice why give the writer the power to cause us pain?
T., I do appreciate your comment to "take it easy." Both writers and readers can benefit from taking it easy.