Has This Happened to You? - Austin,MN

I told some woman people like her were the reason I sincerely hoped california fell into the sea. I think I was PMSing, or just irritable-I'm nuts either way, but I like mamapedia, so I've been good ever since!

tehehe, welcome to MPBGC!

(Mamapedia Bad Girls Club)

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**And from the responses you're getting, you can see the list of members already in this club is a pretty impressive one! You are in good company!

Mine get pulled once and awhile. I recently made the comment that I don't understand why people have kids if they don't want them around. HARSH? Maybe, but so true.

I had a post insulting turnips pulled for flaming. I had not idea turnips were a hot topic to be avoided.

I don't think they actually read answer before they pull them, they just do it after a number of people report it.

I can't believe Riley forgot my turnip question. *sniff sniff*

No, and I'm kinda ticked! lol I'm as flaming as the next gal! Please somebody report me! I want in the club too.
As a matter of fact, You know what? I don't like the word "flaming" Where I'm from it's a euphamism for someone flambouyantly gay. That's offensive to people with alternative lifestyles. Where do I report that?

I get a lot of hate mail so I don't even check mine...

If a person posts a question in a public forum they cannot expect everyone to agree with them. They will have people who feel passionately about the topic and will not be able to have their viewpoint heard.

I personally believe that people who do not vaccinate their children to be people who do not want to protect their children from disease. I think that there are so many other things in our environment to harm the kids and they don't stop having them around. Sugar free substitutes cause cancer and no one really knows the long term side effects of them, they are seriously dangerous for our kids but so many moms only let their kids drink sugar free soda or sugar free desserts. Red dyes in foods drive some kids to the brink of insanity but you don't see a celebrity enforcing removing them from all soft drinks and snack foods, so many things effect our kids and vaccines can actually save their lives. Who in their right mind would not use this to the utmost advantage.

If an answer contradicts what the person asking wants to hear so what????? That is the beauty of a site like this. It allows the members to experience other peoples perspectives and allows them the opportunity to think from someone else's point of view.

I am passionate about child care, I know the rules and regulations, how to go about setting yourself up in the child care business, what is normal what is cause for concern, etc...I am passionate about it.

I am also passionate about the rights of people with developmental disabilities. If you ask a question about people who have a DD I am going to answer and it is going to be in the favor of the person having as many choices and rights allowed as humanly possible.

We should welcome different opinions so we can see the world of someone else and see how they managed life.

Well I got one pulled for saying "pregnancy is not a disability." What the???

It happens all time. I laughed at the time. I guess I just think if this is a site where you should expect answers you might not agree with...you should also expect people not to agree with your answers.

It's not a big deal or "wrong" in the small and grand scheme of things.

I wouldn't automatically assume that the mother reported your post. I didn't read what you wrote, but I have had personal messages accusing me of reporting posts that I most certainly didn't report.

As far as your post not being flaming, just your statement that you don't want childhood diseases to return so you vaccinate your child implies that a parent who doesn't vaccinate DOES want diseases to return. That may imply to a reader that you are making assumtions on their character, which is included as "flaming" as per mamapedia rules.

I am not attacking you in any way, just trying to shed some light on the subject.

*Edit- To be fair, we all have the right to our opinions but mamapedia users have the right to click the "report" button. So, both parties need to realize that they can't be just looking for validation. By this post, you appear to be looking for validation for your answer that got pulled. It definitely goes both ways.

I had one answer pulled and could never figure out why. Didn't receive anything from Mamapedia either and the question wasn't pulled so who knows. Brooke B, that's funny! And I'm from CA. Also, it's too bad because there are many on here that I love to read their answers. I don't agree with them 100% of the time. Wouldn't that be boring if I did though? OH, almost forgot....Tracy K. Wonder if you'll get reported and Jo W. Turnips? Thems fighting words ;-).

So much emotion and politics regarding vaccines. Too bad, makes it hard to hear the levelheaded common sense advice or get a doctor to work with you. Me, I'm allergic to many vaccines and am so happy that I recently found a doctor willing to try and pin down the specifics of the allergy and what we can do. Looks like I may be able to atleast get the whooping cough vaccine which is what I was hoping for.

I've had 2 answers pulled. The first one, I think I was out of line in retrospect....it REALLY ticked me off and just did tap dances all over my nerves, but the whole post was pulled, not just my answer. The 2nd one...I was actually very surprised. I had no idea why it'd be pulled, but whatever. Not bad though, for 6 years of being on here, to just have 2 replies kicked out. I agree that if someone wants to post a question on a public forum, she should be able to pull her big girl pants up and at least recognize that someone has a different opinion than her. Oh well.

I'm a big girl so I've never reported anyone, nor has anyone reported me to my knowledge. If I REALLY don't like someone's comment, then I update my comment and call them out on it. (I also don't do underhanded, nasty PMs to the offender.) My opinion is let the offensive comment stand for all to see who made it and let others judge them by it (Just to note, I am not talking about your vaccination comment when I say this!)

First, I haven't seen any of these posts lately on vaccinating, so I'm not going to address specifics. I think it depends on what the mother asks for. If she says, "I don't vaccinate my children, and my friends disapprove, what should I do?" then your comments would be completely appropriate. I mean, she would practically be asking for alternative opinions. If the posting was, "I am looking for a pediatrician who will treat un-vaccinated children like mine," your comment seems pretty flaming to me, as it doesn't answer any question but exists just to express your disapproval. However, I personally only "report" people when I feel they are abusing someone, using inappropriate language, or trying to sell something.

Absolutely :). Over stupid stuff most of the time too. It's when someone gets offended and gets all twisted so they report it.

I only report things when people start name calling and just being down right awful. I see a lot of things I think are unnecessary - but they are opinions.

I think I have had three pulled in several years...so not many. It is what it is though and I move on.

No. Not yet anyways. I have used some curse words in my own questions.

This is a public site and people are free to speak their mind. If you don't want to hear someones honest opinion then you shouldn't post the question. sometimes I try to be nice but my answers just don't turn out that way. I have learned a lot from other people and have changed up my ways.

Some people get offended by the stupidest things. Is stupidest a word?

Reporting a question or answer might get it removed - but not always.
It largely depends on the monitors on duty.
Some are fairly hasty on the delete button while others will let some things slide a bit.
The owners of the site decide what's a waste of disk space and what isn't.
And occasionally they don't care who's offended by a response as long as the site rules have not been violated.
Some people are offended that the sun comes up every day.
There's no pleasing everyone.

I just had an answer pulled today for the first time - I used the s-word but with an asterik and it got pulled. Oh well. And I never got a message from Mamapedia either!

I've had one question pulled. I inquired as to why, and mamapedia said it was by accident, they apologized and said I could re post it. Are you sure it was pulled because it was "flaming"? My question wasn't even opinion based or an offensive topic at all...

I think there's a lot of assuming here. For instance, the turnip question. That was probably accidentally pulled as well...

I have not posted anything I wouldn't stand by. If someone is that offended by my honest opinion, then he or she's not really looking for answers that may be different. I don't think they read them, either. I think it's just a matter of being reported.

yes mine just got pulled a week or so ago, i mean a post i had. i didn't think it was bad but who cares. i wish those with no spine should not post because they can't hear the answers. anyways, i haven't seen this post about a vaccine but not for nothing i am pro-careful consideration-and decision vaccination. meaning, i do my research, i decide, i have the final word.

It's my understanding that if 3 people report a post it gets pulled. Being pulled has nothing to do with it's content. It has everything to do with people being sensitive and clicking on "Report This."

I commented on that question too...we'll see if mine gets pulled. So far it is still there...

I think when someone posts a hot topic like vaccines, even if they don't want undesireable comments (like she specifically asked no comments), they need to realize that people are going to post them. It happens. Sorry your post got pulled. I did read it and I didn't think it was that bad. You did comment which she asked people not to do, but again, with a hot topic, you are gonna get comments!!!

I did and I didn't consider it "flaming " either. It was no different from anything else I ever answer so??? I figure wth! If you don't like what I say then boo for you!! I don't report. The lovely thing about this place us you can have a opinion and speak your mind. Except when your flaming!! Ha ha ha. Don't let it bother you love! Have a great day!

once, I had an answer pulled, and I never got a msg telling me it would be, or was, or why. I was miffed. But yes of course my answer was probably not what the *mama* wanted to hear, because i called her out on something. Oh well. I agree with you, if you ask, expect to hear from every side.

Yes it has happened to me as well, and nasty pm's too....

The thing is... this is a public forum and when a post is put out here, it is up for grabs for anyone to post their opinion. Sometimes you get pulled because someone does not like your opinion. Then, if we all had the same opinion on here.... it would be very boring.

The 1 "rule" I go by when posting is that I will not post something on a forum that I would not say word for word to the person if we were sitting eye to eye.

A lot of people choose to be all high and mighty when they are hiding behind a computer screen. Just let it roll off your back. It more than likely won't be the last time it ever happens.

Not sure - a post was pulled after my posting an answer (that got several flowers) but have no way of knowing just when/why