How Would U Feel If Your Guy Said This to a Female Exercising...

F., I have sorta gotta wonder why you posted this incredibly vague question when, a few questions ago, you sort of got snitty with posters~

"Thanks to the moms who stayed focused on the question and didn't judge me or attack me...
Many of you lost focused and were quick to judge or make assumptions. That problem still persists on this board. LOL"

So, thanks for being vague again. I'm sort of wondering what sort of response you intend to elicit. I don't think the majority of us know what this ("don't walk off too much") even means. Other than you think it's untoward and want some confirmation of that.

If you think you are dating a cad, you're dating a cad. We don't have to tell you that, do we? ;)

uuumm...I wouldn't stress over it.

He can look at the candy. I just don't want him to sample it.

I would not overthink it and stress about it. It wouldn't be worth worrying about to me.

I guess my hubby has offended many if people think the way your question is posted.

We work out, I'm in better shape than hubby but I feel no threat if he talks to another woman or compliments her.

unless she's a friend, this is completely inappropriate.
actually, even if she IS a friend this is completely inappropriate.
i'm glad my guy has way too much class to say something like that to anyone but me.
and unfortunately, i'm in no danger of inciting such a comment.<G>
khairete
S.

I believe your BF or husband was saying you look good as you are, don't lose weight. I would think he was trying to give a compliment and would honestly think nothing of it.

My husband however would never say this because in this age of political correctness he would be scared to offend the woman he was trying to compliment. Therefore, he would keep his mouth shut:). Honestly, I think it is such a shame so many people are offended so easily.

Rude and disrespectful to both you and her. If he wants to look thats fine as long as its discrete but to say it is another thing. He's standing there with you and telling another woman not to walk off to much because what? he likes what he sees? How obnoxious! This guy needs a lesson in manners. Ive dropped guys over less than this.

Hmmmm....I would assume it meant "I like your a$$ exactly the way it looks right now--don't change a thing!"

Hope "your guy" said it to you, not a random chickee at the gym!

He was complimenting the woman. Mine might think it but is not the type to say it.

I would be shocked. Completely and utterly shocked.

My husband would never be so rude. To that person exercising or to me.

Um, nothing, not even sure what it means.

Did your guy say it to you or to someone else? Ask him what he meant!

I wouldn't know what he meant, so I probably would feel anything bad or good until I asked him.

I would think it was really rude. Not because of what he might be implying, but because it's none of his business what she does.

I think that there too much left unsaid in your question for me to say how I would feel about it. Who, what, where, when, why? The tone in which it was stated. The company In which is was stated.

No, I'm not falling into your "you all assume too much" trap today. Peace out.

Sounds like he's not planning on being yours much longer.
If a guy is not begging for the privilege to be with me he's not worth holding onto.

Well, I'm plus size and my husband likes bigger women so it wouldn't faze me. However, I would be bothered by him saying it to a complete stranger just passing by. Thinking it and saying it out loud are 2 different things. If it's bothering you, maybe you should find a "new" guy. Good luck.

I have no idea. It depends on a lot of things, and you did not provide any details. Was this said to someone he knows? Was it a random comment to someone whose body he was admiring? Was it said to you? (I assume not, but maybe he did and you're just wondering how others would have reacted.) Did you hear it said or did he tell you about it afterwards?

My reaction would be totally different if he was talking to someone he knew well and with whom he has a casual and teasing relationship. It could have been a throw-away line. If it was said to someone with a "fabulous" body and he'd been starting at her butt from the next treadmill for 20 minutes, it would tick me off. If it was said to someone he didn't know, it would tick her off and make him look like a low life in her eyes. If it was said to someone with an apparent (or known) eating disorder or obsession with exercise, it would have been either an expression of great concern or a really invasive and judgmental remark. If you overheard it, that's one thing, and it was either rude or calculated to get a rise out of you. If he came home and told you about it, he's trying to get a rise out of you and let you know that there are women in his daily life that you can't do anything about. So my concern would be why he's trying to hurt me and show off.

I would assume that he likes what he sees and doesn't want her to lose too much weight, if he's serious. If he's not serious, I would assume that he just wants to flirt with her, for whatever reason. Depending on my history with the guy, I might think that he's looking to do more than strike up a conversation OR that he's bored and doesn't really know a more effective form of communication to keep himself entertained OR anything in between. Maybe he wants her to hurry off the equipment so he can use it.

My FEELINGS about my guy saying it would depend on how secure I feel in the relationship and, again, my history with him. And my personal experience with men.