R.K.
I'm willing to bet you're stepping in a bit to much in other areas where daddy is interacting with your child. We all tend to do that; we have our way of pleasing our children, fixing things, getting our children to do things, our men do it differently and we think it's faster or easier to use our system so we want to interfere. It is vitally important for you to allow your husband to develop his relationship with his little on his way.
Children go through stages like this all the time. She has gotten a reaction out of saying these things, so she uses them. She's NOT being evil or BAD, she just found words that have power...don't give them power...have no reaction, as if she never even spoke. Remember they don't have a full grasp of the meaning of every words they are able to speak. Generally the "I don't like you" or "I hate you" is really, "I'm mad at you" or "I don't like THIS". There are years in normal development where routine is especially important and the slightest little change with knock the world off it's axis in their little minds. This could be part of the problem, too, so reading stories will have to be only daddy's job forever. KWIM?
It kind of sounds like daddy is her play toy/buddy and when he wants to put her to bed she's feeling betrayed because he's supposed to be fun.
The best thing I've found in dealing with things like this is to simply stay out of it. Daddy will figure out a systemt that works for them and still falls within your agreed upon value systems.
We moms can be controlling of the raising up of our children, but the men needs to be allowed to handle it or they'll eventually stop trying. Don't allow yourself to be available, leave the house if you must, but create the conditions allowing/forcing your daughter to see her daddy in a new light that doesn't fuel a fire of frustration. It'll take a few days but allowing daddy to handle it in his own way with love will produce mass amounts of peace for the both of you far into the future.
BE PREPARED, as she grows older she will swing in both directions as to who she will want to talk to and be around, sooner or later you're going to be the one she doesn't like, so pick a strategy of trust that you'll be able to employ when it's your turn. (It Sucks either way, but it passes)
I hope this helps. Be encouraged, this is Normal, frustrating, but normal. :o) :o) :o)