Is This Normal on Here?

There are a few women on here that will send you mean private messages sometimes... it's normal, but none of us like it much. best thing to do is ignore it and don't respond.
Don't poke the rattlesnake.

Most of my private messages are positive. I get ones thanking me for asking a question, or for a response, or asking more information on advice I posted.

I have had one that was BEYOND nasty. She went back and read old questions of mine and really didn't like one topic and had some nasty words for me. I laughed it off and responded thanking her for pointing out her dissatisfaction for my life :). Oh well!

Another likes to PM me sometimes because we differ on almost all views...but I just get a giggle out of her. If we disagree on everything and only know each other on here, I have no reason to pay any attention to her.

You'll learn who people are and whether or not you think they are being snide or helpful...but ignore the PM's that come from people you'd rather not deal with. That's what I find works best :).

Welcome to Mamapedia!

Just ignore it. Some mamas feel a need to attack privately. It happens to all of us at one time or another.

Welcome to the site. I'm sorry about your experience with another mom.

Girl, don't even worry about it. You'll find that some of the women on here get bitchy and feel the need to send out personal messages to dog someone. (I'll probably offend someone with that statement...and to you, I say "Bring it!")

I typically only send messages on here to say thank you, hey your response rocked, or to ask a question that I thought was too personal to ask on the person's question.

Just ignore the hater. They're not worth your time.

*hugs*

Really? I looked at your posted responses and I can't imagine anyone truly taking offense by what you've posted. I think someone is messing with you.

Yes. Monitors are becoming "members" of the site. It was a suggestion that some members gave to mamapedia. They are trying to get more involved in the site and its members.

You have been told, you can verify the PM via ____@____.com if it is not from them, they will tell you.

If the message is from a member, you can report it. I can tell you that within 48 hours of becoming a member on this site, I got a VERY immature PM from someONE gossiping about other members.

I don't "do" drama, I've got a wife and three girls, that's enough drama for me. This site has helped me out in my few short months here. I would hope it would do the same for you.

It sounds to me like you want to create drama and sympathy. It also sound like you know the site already and aren't "new". As I didn't know about "monitors" until at least a month into my time here. So it makes me wonder (sounds like the Cheshire cat in Alice in Wonderland)....whhooooo aaarrreeee youuuu???

This is a diverse site....if you offend someone or feel offended by someone, simply report it and say why. There are monitors and we are ALSO eligible to be a monitor.

I have been on this site for many years. I have only ONE person that likes to send me hate mail. This person and I, have completely different views on almost every topic. I also know this one particular person is known for her hate mail to many others. I personally skip all her PM's and I NEVER read them, perhaps you will need to do the same. Best wishes

there are PMs (private messages) that any member can send you. if you don't like 'em just delete them and move on. it doesn't happen that often, at least to me, and i piss off lots of people<G>.
if someone (usually a whiner) doesn't like something you've posted they can report it to mamapedia, who usually pulls it and sends you an official notice that you have hurt someone's feelings and are in danger of being outcast and shunned forever.
best thing to do is shrug and ignore them all.
:) khairete
S.

I have had a few friends tell me they were PMed by employees of this site. Before that I didn't think it was possible but after they told me what happened it appears they do have employee members.

It would probably be helpful if you said who it was. If you can't tell we all know who PMs hate mail and who doesn't.

I've been on here for 6 years!!! I have only gotten a very small handful of rude private messages, like, less than 10. Just ignore them, there is always going to be some uptight person who feels the need to correct or tell someone off. If they harass you, then you can report them. Have fun!

I'm new to this site too... good to know!

Just let it go...I've only rec'd one nasty PM and I was not out of line. A girl on here posts quite a bit...and she was contradicting herself (big time!) and I called her on it. She did not like that and said I was attacking her. I was simply trying to clarify and was not rude. She just didn't like being called out!

Yes, it's happened to the best of us. People can take what you say way out of context because of how they personally read what you typed even though in your head, it's not what you meant. It's only happened to me twice and I've been on here for a number of years now. One I ignored, the other one I did explain my view and left it at that, they never replied again.

Yeah it is, sometimes people will do that. I have gone back and forth with people before, but then I just say, you know what, forget about it, life's too short. But in answer to your question, yes it does happen. But sometimes the opposite happens and someone will send you a personal msg about how much you helped them and those totally outshine the few negative ones. Welcome, this board definitely has it's own flavor, but I have learned a lot!

she's not a monitor .. probably just more of an annoyance :) hahahh I have recd emails from people who didn't agree with what I wrote... some I ignore, others I did write back..

I've been on here for over a year, and I've maybe got 2-3 PMs tops. None have been nasty. So maybe it's not a usual thing that happens here. But reading other answers, perhaps it is! Just ignore it and don't reply I suppose. :)

Because it is a site for advice and opinions you will get some people who don't like what you said or how you are doing something and will say so. You have to take the good with the bad if you are going to put a question or comment out there. Remember you can listen to whatever advice you want and ignore those you don't like. You just have to let things roll off your back and keep moving. Thank those who give advice or comments that you like and are helpful. I'm sorry you had such a bad experience your first time. Do remember that we are all entitled to our own opinions and we like to give them!! Chin up sister and keep positive. Good luck and God Bless.

I looked at your profile and am scratching my head in confusion, trying to figure out what could have possibly offended someone. Mabey they messaged you by mistake? There is absolutely nothing offensive in anything you said.

Oh, I have never been messaged by a monitor or moderator. I didn't know they could do that.

I rarely read the private messages. I wish there was a way to turn them off. I got harassed at one point by someone, so I just ignore that stuff.

I'm coming on this thread late, but just want to tell you to ignore the advice here about PM's. The idea that you should put up with a meannie here writing you privately to rip you to shreds so that the rest of MP doesn't see what she does is ludicrous. If you get any PM's like that at all, either delete them, or write back one remark saying that you don't read nasty PM's (and then DON'T read another PM from that person EVER AGAIN.) Better yet, report the nasty PM's if your report button works. (My report button doesn't work - I wish it did!)

You don't come off as immature for being upset about someone writing something ugly to you in private. You come across as normal. The ones who tell you that you are immature for outing them in public are the ones who are doing so much yelling in private. Grandma T is right - don't let the rattlesnake near you.

Dawn