Spin Off: Sentimental Gifts from Old Boyfriends (Or Husbands)

Please - it's a gift. Wear it if you like it. If you don't like or wear it - sell it and buy something you like.

I'm super sentimental - but I also like and can appreciate a good piece of jewelry!

I would treat it like any other piece of jewelry. If I liked it, I would wear it, regardless of where it came from. If I didn't like it, I wouldn't have it wasting space in my jewelry box.

I agree that a gift is a gift, whether it's jewelry or a new battery for your car. I don't get the women (and their current husbands) who find using gifts given by exes to be somehow inappropriate. It's almost like a really outdated idea that a man somehow "marks" his woman by what she uses and wears, like anything that came from another man is somehow threatening to him.
Glad I'm not married to a guy like that!

I did not answer this question on the first 'go round'...

BUT, having thought on it...I still have my wedding and engagement rings from my ex. After 10 years post divorce, I have not decided WHAT to do with them. My daughters (3) want NO part of them...but the fact remains, I was married to him for a LONG time. He IS the father of my kids. They are a symbol of my history. They are a fact!

When the divorce was 'new', I considered making the diamond into a belly button ring, and getting a piercing.

THEN I saw the SIZE of the piercing...lol. I also considered my motivation, and had to admit it was mostly to piss off my VERY conservative military ex. Needless to say, I did not do that. They sit in my jewelry box.

I have other jewelry from other relationships over the years. I wear them when it suits me. I may smile for a moment over a memory (as I do with pictures). But, they are a part of my past...and I always try to honor my past as I look toward my future.

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If you like it ... wear it as often as you like.

Wear it. As long as it doesn't have a sign attached to it that says this jewelry was purchased by my first husband whom I no longer care for, why do people have to know? gosh why do we always tell on ourselves?

Mine is mine is mine. If I like it, I wear it. If I don't like it, I put it away or get rid of it. If there's no sentimental value...no need to hold on to it.

I hope that you don't let your friends make you think too long and hard about this. As long as your conscience is clear and your intendent is not negatively affected, there's no harm. They can shove it.

My mother remarried a few years after my father died. She will not change her name to that of her new husband. They will not be buried together. She has friends and relatives who try to convince her otherwise. They need to mind their own business. So do YOUR friends.

Oh, and my husband doesn't care about stuff like that. As I mentioned in the last post, he was married for years before me, and I wouldn't dream of asking him to pick through his clothes and cuff links and...whatever...to toss out the stuff from her. We've got books on our shelves that she bought for him. This stuff might matter at 20. When you're older and have accumulated things through life, people understand.

Now, if he had an old something falling apart and he told me that the reason he's holding on to it is that she bought it for him on their honeymoon, I would have a big problem.

I agree with you - if there is not an emotional attachment invoked by it, then by all means wear it!!! It's YOUR jewelry regardless of where it came from.

Does it bother your fiance' that you wear the jewelry given to you by your ex?

If not, wear it... it is yours to do with as you please.

I have one ring from an ex that my husband doesn't like me to wear, at some point I'm going to have the stones turned into a necklace because I think it's pretty.

Otherwise he doesn't care about things that I have from ex's. Hell, some of the stuff we use in our kitchen are things he got at his first wedding. I don't care.

Same answer I gave to the previous question. I would keep it and wear it if I liked it. I don't see it any differently than if a friend gave it to me or I bought it myself.
Wearing a piece of jewelry does not mean you are going back to that person, leaving the person you are with. It just means you have a piece of jewelry you enjoy that someone gave you as a gift and that person happens to not be in your life anymore.
There is no need to make it out to be anything more than that.

I'm just like you. And I would look at someone who tried to tell me how to feel about "stuff" like they had two heads if I was getting flack like you...

Your question is exactly the same as the person who originally posted this. Regardless if you consider your jewelry to be sentimental or not, it is jewelry that you own - just like you said. Go ahead and wear it b/c it doesn't matter who gave it to you. We all have a past.

I just don't understand why you felt the need to post this question again, right after someone else already did.

Who says you have to do anything with it?
Just tell your friends that they are funny and laugh them off!
As far as your jewelry goes - if you like it - keep it and wear it.
If you don't like it - sell it or melt it down and make something else or save it to give to kids when they are grown up.

If I liked it I would wear it.

I would keep my nice jewelry. I could see friends saying not to wear your wedding band/engagement ring........... but other nice pieces.......I would keep until I decided that I no longer wanted the items. You can always have them redesigned, if that's what you wanted to do.