Why Can't They Just Answer Me?

I admit I have been taken off guard by some questions that were asked to me. Once I felt really bad because this girl asked me if she went to Mexico would she be in a different day. All I could do was blink at her for a minute. I did eventually answer her, but I felt bad because I knew that the expression on my face was...well probably not good.

I think sometimes we get so used to having a certain amount of knowledge and we forget that not everyone else has that same information.

Sometimes I think if you ask a question that someone thinks is common knowledge then you will get snarky answers because they think YOU are the one being snarky. Like the Mexico question...for a minute I thought she was being funny....then realized she was serious.

Talking about stupid questions, just makes me want to share a funny story. My husband and sister were talking the other day about electric vs. gas stoves.
My husband said "The nice thing about gas is that you can just turn the knob and hold a match to the burner to ignite it."
My sister says, "Does the match have to be lit?"
My husband responded "Are you serious?"
My friend says "Well, there's no such thing as a stupid question."
Husband says "Yes there is!"

We all say/ask dumb things from time to time, just laugh it off!

I think you mean in general.

Sometimes people forget that what is common knowledge to one person or even most people, doesn't make it common knowledge to everyone.

Also, I know I get impatient when my husband or older kids ask me a question without thinking it through first. Not like they asked it wrong, but like they could have easily answered there own question had they thought about it for a minute. For instance, "Mom, where are the brushes?" "Well...(blink, blink, blink)...where do you brush your hair...(owl eyes, blink, blink, blink)?" I will answer any question when someone truly doesn't know, but I am not patient with being used as a substitute for someone else's own thinking brain.

Also, there are just some folks that don't need a reason to be mean.

Are you talking about people in your life, or people here on Mamapedia?

If people in your life are talking to you this way, then you have a relationship problem. Someone who loves you and is on your side shouldn't treat you like that. If they do, either let them have it, or withdraw from them until they treat you better.

If it's here on Mamapedia, report a nasty comment. Or ignore rudeness, and thank the people who weren't rude.

Never feel that you are stupid for asking something. Sometimes you have to ask people you trust instead of people who you KNOW are mean, but don't stop asking.

Sorry you're going through this,
Dawn

Who are they? If there is someone you are close enough to maybe in a non stressful moment you can ask in a non confrontational way. Maybe you unintentionally have a tone when you ask a question. That's often hard for us to hear sense we are inside ourselves (physically it's hard to hear how your own voice sounds) as well as unconsciously changing our tone and manner. Hope this makes sense.....Maybe you hang out with impatient or overworked people?

There are no stupid questions only stupid answers.

You haven't asked a question since August. It was about "fake" weddings.

This is a public forum - you will get all types and kinds of answers.

In my opinion, there is no such thing as a stupid question - the only stupid question is the one unasked.

If people are rude - it might be how you are reading it...especially if you don't like what they are saying...YOU might add the meanness to it. Some people are just mean and they don't even think about it...it doesn't phase them.

There are many on here who answer bluntly without sugarcoating things. I do that. If you think it's mean. It is not meant to be mean.

Some on here are VERY sarcastic and in a wonderfully fun way - again, it's subject to interpretation!!

it's not that your questions are stupid....nobody posts "stupid" questions! I went back thru your ?s & yes, there are some answers which are *#!

Some of the responses may seem lacking in kindness, patience, or other virtues. Some are flat-out rude, some are unbelievably cruel. But sometimes, where it's meant to be humorous....it comes across as being simply mean. Sarcasm does not always translate very well....

As someone who posts ?s, you have to be prepared to "take" it all. Not everybody agrees with you, not everybody sees an issue where you do. Doesn't make you wrong....simply means that you have a different opinion on the issue.

A good rule of thumb for this type of forum.....take everything with a grain of salt. Look for the reality, & avoid the drama.....

I think if we all just start off our day knowing every single person we come in contact with including our spouse and kids, are going to be rude but decide we will over look it and be nice anyway, our days (and mental health) will be so much better off. That way, we can do and say whatever we want and continue our lives happily and know we are doing our best for that day.

Remember, we can't do someone's best for them, we can only do our own best...if that makes any sense.

Are you talking about people in real life, or here ? :)

Could you be misinterpreting people's answers to be rude when they aren't trying to be? Are you asking questions at a bad time for that person? I have a relative who asks the weirdest questions at the most inopportune times, then when you answer her she drills you in a childlike voice until your brain feels numb. Not saying you do that, it's just that lot can play into this answer...

Sometimes I think people are just trying to be as honest as possible in their response, and that can sometimes come off as rude. I try not to take it personally.

Are you talking about THIS site?
It looks like you've asked Q's & gotten lots of answers. I looked briefly and none looked snarky...
If you're talking about LIFE, in general, and asking questions...yes...sometimes people are rude. People can be rude on this site, too. Just consider the source!
And, remember, in real life, people will treat you the way you allow them to!

I have to ask what is bringing this on. I just checked your profile and you haven't asked a question since August! You never know when you strike a hot button issue for people. People respond emotionally when they feel like you are questioning them or someone they know/love.

I have discovered that often when I am talking with my friends, I assume they know what I'm thinking. There have been many instances when I am halfway through a story and I look at their faces and realize that I've left them behind at some point because I've left out too many details. When you ask questions, be sure your audience is with you.

I'm sarcastic, direct and dont candy coat my answers, whether on here or in person. If you say something "stupid" to me in person, not only will my facial features reveal that I think you are being stupid, I will probably say something to that effect as well. Everyone is different. Some people tend to be more direct than others and some are so damn sweet about every little comment and response, it makes me want to vomit! LOL!! So the beauty about us being individuals is that we all have different oppinions and different ways of expressing them. If you post a question on here, you have to know that that opens the door for any kind of response. Good luck.