Would You React like This????

You were right and you said it perfectly. She should know about it-it can be the difference in a slightly bruised baby and a baby with a broken neck!

Maybe she was embarassed about the public posting??? I probably would have approached the same content privately.

I probably would have done the same thing you did - for better or worse. I felt that Chrissy's response to you was more inflammatory than what you wrote.

Some people can't take being told that they might be doing something wrong w/out getting defensive, even if you have best of intentions and try not to be accusatory. The fact is sometimes there ARE right and wrong ways to do things, and some decisions that are better (safer, more healthful, etc) than others, regardless of how we feel about them. I guess this is why I can't lay off in situations like this where someone is literally at risk, too...

Perhaps it would have been better to send a personal message rather than post it on her wall and risk embarrassing her.

I would have sent your cousin a private message about the seat belt, so nobody else saw it. I know you meant well, but I'd feel embarrassed if someone pointed out something I was doing wrong in such a way that everyone could see it.

FB is not the place to post this. Do it privately if you feel like you must say
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She does sound a little silly. Really, who cares if you make a comment about safety.
My guess is Chrissy doesnt have children. You probably could have stopped the conversation after your second comment. Your stated your safety concern and then backed up why. No need to get in to an arguement on somebodies page.

Your error was responding further. Let it go.

Hee hee. I have had facebook drama like that too... to the point that friends were scared to say anything to me just in case one of my other friends took offense to it. I finally had to tell everyone that they needed to grow the f*** up, and quit hiding behind facebook!!!

Anyhow... in regards to your post... I probably wouldn't have posted that in the public forum.. It does kind of look like you are scolding her from the perspective of someone who doesn't know you, or your relationship with your cousin. I have family and friends that I CAN say stuff like that to, without worrying about them taking it the wrong way because we both KNOW I have the best interest at heart. BUT I wouldn't post it where others can see it, because just about anything can be misconstrued if you don't know the person saying it. Especially when it's written... I know that it's knee-jerk to defend yourself when someone responds to something like 'chrissy' did, but you probably shouldn't have engaged her either. I think it's probably a bit of both... your post was a little over-the-top to an outsider, and she was out of line to jump all over it like that. I would have probably brought up the chestpiece issue in a conversation with her, or messaged her.

If you don't want to invite public comment, don't post public content. It irritates me when people pull posts because they don't get the answers they wanted, or if they get defensive because someone says, "Hey, by the way..." I think you said it appropriately and maybe someone else reading her wall found out something new. SO many people don't use car seats right and don't know til their kid gets hurt or worse. I've posted things on my FB wall about child safety and a couple of people got huffy about it, but if you're going to publicly post that you aren't keeping your kid safe, then that's YOUR problem. I think the third party was the one with the issue (wonder what her car seat is like?) and not your cousin.

Glad it all worked out and you found a home for your Marathon.

While I do think they overreacted and realize you were trying to help b/c you love your cousin and her son, but what I learned in life (the very hard way) is not to give unsolicited advice. Even though you were just trying to help out and offer important safety advice, some people (such as your cousin and her friend) get offended and defensive. They might have felt like you were telling her she is doing it all wrong (I don't think so at all, but they probably do). Just don't ever give unsolicited advice again, b/c unfortunately, people don't want to hear it (even if it is very helpful advice). I did something similar to what you did and it backfired. What I have learned in life is that you can't save the world. Just worry about yourself and only write FB comments like "cute pic!" and leave it at that. Sorry about what happened. It all boils down to different personalities.

Oh my. It's so easy for drama to be created on FB! I think you were TOTALLY RIGHT to post your comment. You are concerned about the baby. If your cousin knew the proper way to latch in a child, she would not have posted this picture (for fear of advertising to the FB world she had the baby in wrong). The comment from the other girl is very immature. Don't even worry about it. They'd all be thanking you if they got into a collision tomorrow. You should really respond back that if the harness keeps slipping she should tighten it or buy another seat immediately! One crash is all it takes.

Sounds like you got great advice already. I just had to say great job on turning this into a positive- I love your idea with the car seat, and I love how you took all the feedback. Nice job cousin!

Yet another reason I avoid facebook.

No one was being rude. Just opinions.

Personally, I would have sent a message...

You weren't rude at all. =) I'd let it go. I think you're fine and your cousin seemed to understand where you were coming from too. Good luck!

She was freaking out and you weren't rude. But as soon as it started to get long-next time take it offline and on to the private message...I love how she says there is a time and place, but continues to ramble on. And honestly-it was none of her business-you weren't talking to her.

Chrissy is a stupid little a$$ in my opinion. She did exactly what she chastised you for.

I would not say you were rude really. I personally would have complimented the picture first and then said "just in case you didnt know..."

if there was a "like" button for the what happened, I'd of hit it :)

you weren't being rude at all but you should have messaged your cousin so it wasn't posted for everyone to see. It could have made her feel guilty and like she did something wrong. I have a friend who always corrects me, she says it so sweet like, "sweety, just in case you didn't know..." it is very condiscending to me. I do know what you meant and do know you did not mean to be rude but her friend took it that way. That being said, her friend had NO business speaking up or embarrassing you like that! I bet she didn't know you were family. If she comments further, I would post, "I'm sorry, are you family too?" What a B&%$#

freaking out over nothing. but- you could have just messaged your cousin a heads up, too...

all in all- silly....

take care!

Sounds like she was expressing her opinion, just like you did, and then she was mature about it, just like you were. I'm not seeing an issue, really.

You were right to point it out. She didn't think you should have done it publicly. You're both entitled to your opinions. You both didn't dwell on it, you both moved on.

Kudos to you both.

If this is the worst you got, you got nothing. LOL

It wasn't rude, and your exchange was fine. You said something you thought mattered, she said something she thought mattered, and it was all in all civil. No biggie. What you wrote was fine. She was maybe a bit confrontational, but oh well.

Moooving on.

you were fine. chrissy was a little snippy, but not what i would call 'freaking out' either. both of you could have dropped it.
khairete
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Yet another reason NOT to bother with Facebook dramas. I think you were just concerned about the baby...but I also think you are perpetuating the drama by posting the conversation AGAIN.

Blessings......

No your not being rude and I also see the point from Chrissy. She was voicing her opinion too. I think the better way to handle it would be to private msg deana and tell her what you saw in the pic. her friend was defending her because she sensed that she would be embarrased by your comment. Let it go...I would tell the person too! Just do it privately next time.

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she was just defending her friend. I don't think is was as much of an issue as you.