Moments of Impatience W/ Spouse

Do I have these moments with my spouse?
H*ll ya!
Does he have those with me?
H*ll ya!

No one can “make you” feel.
You need to own those feelings, not put the responsibility for them on someone else.

You are definitely overreacting... You're a grown woman getting worked up because he was in a rush and had to repeat himself since you weren't listening. He did nothing wrong, and there is nothing to be upset over.

I had to giggle at this a little...no offense.
If I got ticked off or my husband did every time the other didn't jump at the other's suggestion, we'd be divorced. Or if every time the other got irritated with each other.
It does sound like a personal issue with you, and I don't mean that in a mean or nasty way. I grew up in a very non nurturing environment, no self esteem. Sounds like this could be an issue for you?
Don't sweat the small stuff, let things go. You'll both be happier. Just because he sounds annoyed, doesn't mean there is an issue. He is human, so are you. :)

Everyone is entitled to a bad day every once in awhile.

Everyone snaps, gets impatient, argues a bit.
Sometimes it's not because of anything - stuff just happens.

I broke a favorite mug once by accident - it slipped in the sink and smashed - and I was mad at myself.
I had to tell my husband that I wasn't mad at him - I was just mad - don't take it personally.

Cut your Hubby and yourself some slack.

If you and he are having any conflicts - everyone has them - it's not a big deal that we have them - it's the conflict resolution skills that gets us all to a point where we can kiss and make up.

My mom had a cousin with a happy marriage - and sometimes there would be a spat - and they made up again quickly.
Mom said it was like a little sudden cloudburst that would just as suddenly be over and everything was all sunshine again.
I don't think I've ever heard it explained any better than that!

Why would you think that we should never be impatient or snappy?
It's normal and human.

Like...every day. Raising a family is stressful. If you're worried about some tense tone in your spouse's voice, then I'd be looking at why it bothers you if someone shows that they're slightly irritable. This is very minor and nothing to even give a second thought in most partnerships.

I think all people have moments where they are frustrated with the others in their life, sometimes it is not even really about that person but about other stresses. We can't be expected to be perfect all of the time, no one could live up to that.

wow. Sensitive much?
Been married 15 years and we have had moments worse than that.
I would be frustrated with my husband too. In fact...he would have put the medication in my dog's eye while I left for work. Without me.
Buck up mama.

Yes. Of course.

ETA: wait a second, sorry. To be snappy? Yes, I snap with everyone in my family at some point. I'm human and we're running a household and I'm not at my best all the time. They are understanding.

If they take it personally - well ... hopefully they know I love them and I think highly of them. They know not to take it personally.

When my husband snaps at me and it's over the top (like a little too pissy - such as the other day when we were looking at paint samples and there was a tone to his voice) I just gave him a look with an eyebrow and he changed his tone.

I think this is all fairly normal, isn't it?

I've been married close to 25 years. So long as it's not disrespectful - the odd snap is fairly typical I think. Treating the other like a child - no. That's not good.

Feeling like a child because of your own issues ... I've been like that if I'm PMS'ing and then I realize, oh look what time of the month it is. I am extremely sensitive then. I don't like chalking up my feelings to hormones as a woman thing all the time, but I will say, I do get far more emotional (and over analytical) then.

Well, why not? Do you not get impatient when you need to be somewhere and someone delays you, regardless of whether it's a parent, friend, co-worker or spouse? How about when you're stuck in traffic and someone won't move and you sigh in frustration? He didn't insult you, slam the door in your face, yell, or do anything I'd consider rude or abusive. He was in a rush, understandably so, because of rain, and his tone of voice implied that. If these are the only issues in your marriage, then you have a fairy tale marriage, and I hope you don't take it for granted.

This wasn't a good time to be talking to your husband, since he needed to get to work. I do that to my husband sometimes (talk to him when he doesn't have time). I try to realize it on my own, but sometimes he needs to say, "Hey! I need to go. We can talk later." I'm usually embarrassed when he does that, but I know it's my own fault.

Think about it from his perspective. What else was he to do? He really did need to get going.

Honestly, this is just so mild compared to some of the things my husband and I say to each other. Not because we are mean or don't support each other or are disrespectful. But because we are comfortable with each other and we expect each other to be honest. I would much rather my husband say, "I need to go," than for him to stand there and listen to me babble on and resent me later when he's late for work.

Don't humor me. Tell me what you need.

my husband has no patience what-so-ever. i hate it. he treats me and the kids like everything should be done NOW and with perfection.
so i understand how you feel. and since it apparently happens far less often for you than it does for me i suggest you just deal with it. and if its too much try marital counseling.

Everyone has a rough day now and then, and of course it's entirely normal to get snappy or short-tempered. It's also safest to get snappy with the person who loves you the most and will forgive you easily. To me, the irritation of having to get to the dog's medicine and hit the road before a long commute in the rain (which will undoubtedly be slower than normal and have more accidents and impatient people is totally understandable and normal. I have no idea why this is such a problem for you. Do you feel that he's not allowed to ever be frustrated? Or do you feel that he's allowed to be frustrated but should never, ever display that in front of you?

He's not making you feel stupid or child-like - that's your reaction and it's "on you." It's like that old expression that no one can make you feel inferior without your cooperation and permission. Your feelings are your business.

Now, if you want to make some inroads into your relationship and develop greater understanding, you can wait for a calm moment when no one is under stress and say o your husband that you are hurt by his frustration, but you think it's your issue to deal with and you want his help and support.

Here's another way to handle it: hear the frustration in his voice, and do something to show that you totally understand that he didn't need one more thing to deal with that particular morning. Tell him that you appreciate his dedication to the dog's health and his ability o remember that his task had to be accomplished before he left. Say something nice to him about being so kind to the dog, and say something apologetic about taking it personally for some unknown reason.

You've posted about something similar before, and you got a lot of advice on that. Then I gather you got annoyed or something because you changed your question (from what, I don't know now, since I can' read the original question). So, since that time, have you continued to get upset when he has the nerve to have a tough time? I was criticized heavily as a child, so I wonder if you were too, and perhaps that's why it's so hard for you to experience anything that feels like rejection. I think the best gift you can give yourself and your marriage is to get some counseling around this issue.